You Can be Great If You Really Want To

This song speaks about a man who is trapped in a relationship that is destructive to his own self. The relationship is with a woman who he loves. It speaks of a woman that the man has written off and wants to leave, but being an emotionally weaker person, he just cannot do it when he is face to face with this woman. Rather, he spoils her when he sees her, thinking that he may have been wrong about her all along. The man then goes on to say that later he is confident that she is using him and he still doesn’t do a thing about it. He has begun to enjoy the feeling of low self esteem. Although this man knows that the woman is just playing around with his emotions he does not do a thing about it, because he himself has written himself off as a person with low self esteem.

The singer then speaks of the man making plans to take his lady friend out in the evening. She totally disregards his plans and does not care to even tell him that she doesn’t want to go out. After waiting till the middle of the night, the man feels rejected and abused once again, and feels that he may yet leave her if she keeps treating him this way. So we see a repetition of feelings of rejection and abuse, and still no effort on the man’s part to help him self get out of this destructive relationship.

We then are told that the woman lies to this man that she loves him, while she sleeps with his friends every now and then. One can only imagine the destruction this piece of information can cause to the poor man’s psyche. The man fools himself into believing that the more he suffers the more his love for the woman is proved, and so he remains stuck in this vicious cycle of abuse and forgiveness.

Yes this is only a song, but you would be surprised to see the number of people who are stuck in such a cycle of events, and the popularity of the song is proof of the existence of this large number of people. This song well explains the state of mind of a weak person who is in an abusive relationship with an emotionally stronger person. The truth is that no one can hurt you unless you let them. Forgiveness is not wrong. But forgive for the right reason, not because you are too weak to leave the other person – that is just insecurity and not the right motive for forgiveness. Make sure your self esteem remains in tact, and you will never see such a situation in your life.

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