Seduction is a wonderful game. This involves employing some amount of touching to get the girl interested. Picking up a girl is difficult without having first established mutual tactility. This is one of the great challenges when picking up women–since not all will not respond positively and may not even be open to your touching. How does one approach a girl to establish physical closeness without making the girl too uncomfortable?
Usually, men will just proceed on without taking into consideration whether the girls are already freaking out with their aggressive attempts to physical closeness.
With the concern of appearing disrespectful to girls, some men will not proceed on establishing physical closeness. This situation, though generally safe, may also become a double-edge sword in some cases. The girl will either think that the man is not that interested or she may think the man is too timid to initiate action. Either way, men will not fair well in the eyes of the girls. How do men proceed then?
Quite simply, you just need to follow a few basic rules or procedures, all of which conform to the personal boundaries of most girl (and therefore dont appear uncalled for or rushed) but at the same time clearly indicate that youre a confident guy whos not afraid of getting to know girls and even showing it through casual, relaxed physical contact. So, lets take a look.
1. Most men think that touching a girl on first dates are uncalled for. Not true. One must understand that some degree of physical touch (done tastefully), will help establish an immediate bond between the two of you. You can talk to her while gently touching the outside of her arm–immediately creating that positive and strong first impression.
There is some psychology at play here. An outside of a woman’s arms is not considered too intimate for you to touch when talking with her. It is a categorized as a casual touch but sends a strong signal still that you are a personable guy. Try it out and see the results.
2. Once youve started a conversation with a girl, or when you randomly find yourself chatting to a woman you really like the look of, its important to keep up the physical contact. Doing so helps maintain the bond and rapport youve already created and also helps build it further, into mutually felt sexual attraction. You can use something called Stealth Tactility to do this.
Quite simply, stealth tactility involves making physical contact with the girl in a disguised way. For example, if she wants to go to the bar or bathroom but doesnt know the way, you can use stealth tactility by placing your hand on her shoulder, drawing her in a little closer, swivelling both of your bodies round until you face in the right direction, then point past other people or obstacles with your other hand to where she needs to go.
3. Lastly, always try to use a contact close when you finish your conversation with a girl. For example, after swapping numbers or arranging to meet again, give her a kiss on the cheek or a hug and a kiss.
It is indeed an accomplishment already if you have secured for yourself a second date. True, you can easily rest on your laurels and wait for that second event. But to really leave a lasting mark on her mind, play some psychology a little. You can do this by leaving her with a sweet kiss, or a warm hug. Doing this will plant subconscious thoughts inside her mind. She will definitely keep thinking about you until you meet again for that second date.