Much of your time as a single girl will be spent hanging out with your closest friends and discussing members of the opposite sex. This is not so much a requirement as a tradition and it is based on the fact that it is extremely difficult to understand guys at the best of times. How can you understand what they’re thinking deep down within, especially as they do not reveal their emotions. Many a lengthy session around the coffee table will try to get to the bottom of this!
Men are not like women, are they, even though we might think that we are cast from the same mold. It doesn’t take much time to understand that we are very different from them and it can be almost impossible to understand guys, to work out what they’re going to do for their next trick.
If you try and put yourself in their position, it appears that men have less time for emotional reflection and rather, need to “get things done.” If you give them clear directions and help them understand, guys will tend to react almost instinctively as they tend to be less of a dreamer and more the actor.
You need to know that a man will start to lose interest in you unless you have some authority and have a position of confidence. Unless he views this confidence, he will not feel as if he is performing correctly as the alpha male. Even if you don’t understand guys well, you have to understand that this is an inbuilt and deep down feeling and so you shouldn’t show him that you are uncertain or unhappy too often.
How is it possible to understand guys, when they seem to spend so much of their time behaving out of character? For instance, you might find them ogling at other girls when you take a trip to the shopping center, which can be so frustrating. Understand guys need to exhibit this element of their persona from time as this may be just an inbuilt trait of theirs.
Don’t become obsessed with trying to understand guys and be careful how much pressure you put on this. You have to be laid-back and philosophical about any relationship and don’t expect them to put the kind of effort into it all as you do.
The man in your life may consider the “finer” things to be very different from what you have in mind. He will want to spend time with his friends “on the town” or visiting a sports match for the afternoon. You might have other ideas but so long as everything is in balance and you have an appropriate time together, you should understand guys in a very basic form and leave them to their own thing.
Deep down inside, the man in your life is emotionally fragile. Don’t expect him to show this at any time though, as it is somewhat “taboo” for males to exhibit any weakness. This may play to your strengths occasionally though and might help to convince you that it is worth trying to understand guys even though they seem to drive you crazy!
Writer Alan Bentley has a great deal of material to help you understand guys. A great resource can be found at at www.cracktheguycode.com.