I’ve heard many times that you’re not supposed to ask the “typical questions” when flirting, and that it can make you seem boring to the girl.
This is wrong in my view. It’s actually probably more weird to a girl if you don’t ever get around to asking about mundane aspects of her life.
Which “typical” questions are at issue here?
What do you do?
Are you studying for a big exam?
How old are your children?
How long have you lived here?
Can those questions lead to a dead conversation? Yes. Do they have to? No.
This is the magic formula:
BORING QUESTION FLIRTING RULE: If you ask a “boring question”, you must PLAY with her answer.
I often query a girl about her schooling or work upon first meeting her.
Then I get creative with her reply.
Here’s an example:
If she says she’s studying radiology, I’ll say “Oh, good, so if I were to break my leg right now, you’d totally help me out. You probably have X-ray equipment right in your backpack, right?”
Notice how the response is framed so she is willing to do your bidding. This is a useful frame. And the way it’s delivered, she’s usually more than willing to play along. That’s got to be a good thing, right?
It’s fun, it’s fresh, and you can use it all the time.
Take this approach for a spin. Use it on women you’re interested in, and even one’s you’re not interested in. It doesn’t hurt to get the practice in, and put a smile on someone’s face.
Use it with store clerks, your aunts at the family reunion, little old ladies. They all love it!
Tyler Paxon Ph.D. is the founder of the How To Flirt website. Take his free quiz at http://how2flirt.com