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Avoid These Arrows and Build Your Self Esteem

Have you ever wondered how some people manage to remain calm and composed and keep self esteem in so many environments? You might like to try these tips to start you off in the right direction.

Try to imagine yourself as a target. A target that archers use to shoot their arrows at, maybe. All the people you meet in everyday situations will become one of those arrows. Those arrows will shoot you down one by one and slowly destroy your self esteem. So which arrow should you avoid to prevent them destroying you or getting the best of you?

Arrow number one: Work Environment Negativity

Wherever you work now or have worked in the past you will have come across the “dog eat dog” environment where everyone is fighting to stay one step of the rest. Non-appreciative people will always thrive in this environment. If you decided to miss your tea break or work through lunch or even decide to stay after hours no one is going to appreciate your efforts. How many times have you worked too hard without any help from the people you are putting all your effort in for? Your self esteem will be ruined if you stay in this negative work environment. Stay out of this. Competition is everywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competitive way.

Arrow number two: Other People’s sad and bad behaviour

The walking wounded, people who spend their lives gossiping, brown nosers, whingers, back stabbing loners, and everyone else with bad vibes and attitudes will slowly eat away at your self esteem as well as your self esteem building program.

Arrow number three: Changing Environment

You cannot get away from change. Accept it and envelop it. Without change we cannot grow as human beings and remain stale and stagnant. Just like a pond that receives no fresh water or movement it too will become stagnant. Changes refresh and cleanse us. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes can and will make things difficult for a while will make life difficult for a while and can sometimes be very stressful but at the same time can improves our lives. In life there will always be changes so we should embrace it and be happy with it.

Arrow number four: Experiences in our past

Do not be ashamed if you make mistakes or fail at something you hoped to be good at. Just do not let failure transform into fear. It might feel like you have been swung around like a cat by the tail. Dust your self off and try again. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.

Arrow number five: Viewing the world in a negative way

When it comes to building self esteem you must learn to make the best out of bad situations .There are too many negativities in the world around us. Try not to view the world in a negative way it will only eat away at your self esteem.

Many people wonder if some people are born leaders or born positive thinkers. This assumption is incorrect as being positive, and staying positive is a choice we make for ourselves. When it comes to building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement it is a choice, not a rule or a talent.

When we start to become responsible for whom we are self esteem building will eventually lead to self improvement. It is just like your oven at home when you light it, it starts off warm then gradually become the inferno you desire. Developing self esteem we start to take control of our life, mission and values. So how do we start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive, contented and happy. Be appreciative of everything around you. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. Living life in a positive way will help you build self esteem and then your confidence will grow.

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Avoid The First Mistake In Goal Setting. Banish The “Soft” Goal

“Soft” goals are the first and worst mistake of goal setting. “Soft” is often used as opposed to hard, cold, measurable facts. Often a coaching client may feel that what he is setting to achieve can not be expressed in numbers. It can not be tied up to specific bounding time-frames. It can not be defined in a clear understood-by-all terms. Therefore, he may try and define a “soft” goal. 

The problem is that there really isn’t such a thing as a soft-goal. What people call a soft-goal is usually an excuse to them not knowing what their results really are, or not knowing how to quantify the results, or not willing to really commit to get those results. And if you don’t really know what you set out to achieve, chances are that you will not achieve it. This is why “Soft” goals are next to useless! 

If your client defined a “Soft” goal, he indicated a wish for this result, but he didn’t really set a goal. In all probability, your client is not deliberately trying to avoid accountability. He probably doesn’t know how to do it correctly.  Surprisingly, executive coaching clients are often just as bad at setting goals as any other coaching clients. The good part is that they can be taught how to do it, and so improve their results. 

When your client comes up with a goal, spend some time with her on refining her goal to fit the following:

· The goal should be defined as an output, a result, and not as a process or an action.

· The goal should be measurable. Try not to give way on this, but if there is no way to do it, at least assure that the goal may be assessed in a consistent manner, and that the rules for making this assessment are defined clearly.

· The goal should be time bound. You client needs to commit to a specific date. 

If the result your client came with can not be measured, try to identify an alternative result that is directly linked to the first, and will give the same indication in a measurable way. Look for measurable characteristics or attributes of the original results. Those are often good candidates to replace it.

If you wish to know more about setting effective goals for your executive coaching clients, download my free e-book on “How to Set Effective Goals – coaching your client to success”  at http://www.ecoachingsuccess.com/effgoalsquz.html

Shmaya is a certified Master Executive Coach (MCI/EMCI). Shmaya teaches coaching courses and develops coach-training materials, courses layouts and coaching tools. http://www.ecoachingsuccess.com

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Ways to Build Self-Esteem – 5 Hot Tips You Must Not Avoid to Create Social Success!

Looking for ways to build self-esteem? Or ever question how powerful is self esteem to social or other forms of success in life?

How would you like to find someone who shares your interests, passions, beliefs, ideas, and opinions? Someone who accepts you and respects you for whom you are? Definitely building your self-esteem will much easier with the tremendous support you have from them!

When you’re single, it can be hard to envision a human being out there with whom you can make a true connection. When you have been through relationship after relationship, with no success and even heartbreak in the mix, building up your self-esteem will plunge and finding love can become an unbelievable notion and an impossible feat.

When you talk about how to build self-esteem, whether you are a seasoned pro in the world of dating, a green newbie looking to take your first steps, or a recent single looking to make a fresh start, there’s always that one lingering question on your mind when approaching new love, “What if the man/woman doesn’t like me?”

Truthfully, that question hangs on the mind of every single in America, so it’s safe to say you are not alone. However, that discouraging mindset could keep you from meeting the perfect person right under your nose if you don’t build up your self esteem with effective ways as soon as possible!

The key to overcoming this mindset is to know the right ways to build your self-esteem and confidence, not just for the purpose of finding a mate, but also for the purpose of inner peace and happiness. Self-esteem is crucial to a person’s outlook on life, self-image, and self-worth. How can one love another without loving the reflection in the mirror?

Tip No: 1

Building up self-esteem can seem like a hard task, but it’s actually quite simple. The first step is realizing that you are worth it. What is it you are worthy of, you may ask. Everything! You are worthy of everything that is good and enjoyable in this world.

Tip No: 2

Next recommendation is to figure out what you truly want and convince yourself that it’s attainable. Singles, if you want a wonderful partner who shares your love of books, the beach, or partying till 2 in the morning, you can have that. You deserve that.

Tip No: 3

Besides the above ways to build self esteem tips, you can try open yourself up to those you really trust. Maybe you have a best friend who’s been there for you since grade school. Or maybe your mom is your best friend who gives you great advice. Go to that person and talk with him/her.

Tip No: 4

Lastly, reward yourself for every accomplishment by indulging in something you love. Chocolate cake? A good book? A weekend in Cape May? You decide. This will help to boost your build self-esteem effort!

Tip No: 5

These steps may seem ineffective in building self-esteem and confidence. But the simplest milestones in life can produce big results. Singles who work on increasing their self-esteem are much more likely to find love and sustain that love over a long period of time.

They know they deserve love. They know they are worth it. Take the initiative to complete these milestones on the road to using great ways to build self-esteem and I promise you a better social life and a better shot at true love. Gradually, you will gain a more positive outlook, a more enjoyable life, and an increase in the happiness you undoubtedly deserve.

Jessica Lynn is a recognized authority on the subject of building self-esteem, self-confidence and social anxiety. Her associate website http://www.how-to-improve-self-esteem.com, provide a wealth of FREE informative articles and resources on everything you’ll ever need to know about Ways to Build Self-Esteem.

Problem-solving Success Tip: Avoid Bug Mentality

Fixing bugs fixes symptoms: like taking aspirin for a headache, it may provide temporary relief but does nothing to prevent the next headache. It’s ok, and often necessary, to relieve the symptoms but you have to dig deeper if you’re going to prevent problems from recurring.

The reasons and benefits for getting past the symptoms to the root causes are well-known, but many companies still tend to confine their root cause analysis efforts to well-defined technical problems such as physical component failures. We need to apply the same philosophy to general business problems, especially if they are chronic.

The first difficulty in getting to root causes of business problems is in identifying that a problem is chronic in the first place. To continue the headache analogy: taking aspirin and forgetting about it is appropriate behavior for the occasional headache that most of us get. However, if the headaches are chronic, it’s time to find out why they’re happening. In the business world, we tend to treat customer trouble calls as isolated incidents—the occasional headache. We treat the symptoms, get the customer back in business, and move on to the next one. To get past the bug mentality, we need to look actively for the patterns that will tell us if a chronic problem is developing.

The second key difficulty is maintaining focus (and resource commitments) long enough to finish identifying and eliminating the root causes of a problem. When a crisis situation occurs, we correctly focus on treating the symptoms and getting things operational again. That’s when the root cause analysis effort should begin to determine why the crisis occurred and take the appropriate steps to eliminate those causes. What usually happens, though, is everyone involved heaves a huge sigh of relief at having survived and moves on to the next crisis. To get past the bug mentality in this situation, we need to change the business model so we don’t consider a crisis over until the root causes are identified and fixed.

Copyright 2007. Jeanne Sawyer. All Rights Reserved.

Jeanne Sawyer is an author, consultant, trainer and coach who helps her clients solve expensive, chronic problems, such as those that cause operational disruptions and cause customers to take their business elsewhere. These tips are excerpted from her book, When Stuff Happens: A Practical Guide to Solving

Problems Permanently
. Find out about it, and get more free information on problem solving at her web site: http://www.sawyerpartnership.com/.

Leadership Gone Wrong – 5 Ways You Can Lose Your Leadership Skills, And How To Avoid Them!

It is a sad fact that some leaders just seem to fail all the time. There are many leadership development programs offered to help such employees and turn them into productive leaders. So what does go wrong to such leaders? Here are some of the issues that can break even the best of leaders:


A. Practice what you preach: Some leaders forget that the very calling of their position demands for them to set examples for their subordinates. How would your subordinates have respect for your orders when you tell them not to do this or that and go ahead and do it yourself? In such a state, order cannot be found, and employees will want to get another leader for them who will be able to set the right example. When you set the right example, you pave the way for others to follow in your steps.


B. Set some standards for all to follow. You are the best person to set an example being a leader. Try and involve your subordinates when you plan the set standard rules. This will make them feel involved and honored. Once you have a standard to set, you need to ensure that these rules are followed every day and every minute. Be an example by following the rules to the T.


C. Do share your knowledge and expertise with your subordinates. You are better that is why you have been made leader over people. However, some leaders fail to give the right guidance to their juniors, out of the fear that they may get enough knowledge to become their competition. This is utterly selfish. If somebody is that good, you cant really stop them from learning something even if you try. But if some employee is not that creative, a little help from you will only be received with gratitude.


D. Care for your team. A good leader is one that can identify each employee’s potential on an individual basis, and encourage the employees to churn out the best from within. The employee may not know his own strengths and weaknesses but it is your job as leader to recognize them.


E. Leaders can sometimes lose pace with the changing times, especially if they are older than their subordinates as is often the case. Try and stay in tune with what’s in, and you will be able to connect much better with your juniors.


Follow the tips mentioned in this article, and you may well make a better leader out of yourself. If you feel the need to get into a leadership development program, then do so by all means.

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