Have you ever wondered how some people manage to remain calm and composed and keep self esteem in so many environments? You might like to try these tips to start you off in the right direction.
Try to imagine yourself as a target. A target that archers use to shoot their arrows at, maybe. All the people you meet in everyday situations will become one of those arrows. Those arrows will shoot you down one by one and slowly destroy your self esteem. So which arrow should you avoid to prevent them destroying you or getting the best of you?
Arrow number one: Work Environment Negativity
Wherever you work now or have worked in the past you will have come across the “dog eat dog” environment where everyone is fighting to stay one step of the rest. Non-appreciative people will always thrive in this environment. If you decided to miss your tea break or work through lunch or even decide to stay after hours no one is going to appreciate your efforts. How many times have you worked too hard without any help from the people you are putting all your effort in for? Your self esteem will be ruined if you stay in this negative work environment. Stay out of this. Competition is everywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competitive way.
Arrow number two: Other People’s sad and bad behaviour
The walking wounded, people who spend their lives gossiping, brown nosers, whingers, back stabbing loners, and everyone else with bad vibes and attitudes will slowly eat away at your self esteem as well as your self esteem building program.
Arrow number three: Changing Environment
You cannot get away from change. Accept it and envelop it. Without change we cannot grow as human beings and remain stale and stagnant. Just like a pond that receives no fresh water or movement it too will become stagnant. Changes refresh and cleanse us. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes can and will make things difficult for a while will make life difficult for a while and can sometimes be very stressful but at the same time can improves our lives. In life there will always be changes so we should embrace it and be happy with it.
Arrow number four: Experiences in our past
Do not be ashamed if you make mistakes or fail at something you hoped to be good at. Just do not let failure transform into fear. It might feel like you have been swung around like a cat by the tail. Dust your self off and try again. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.
Arrow number five: Viewing the world in a negative way
When it comes to building self esteem you must learn to make the best out of bad situations .There are too many negativities in the world around us. Try not to view the world in a negative way it will only eat away at your self esteem.
Many people wonder if some people are born leaders or born positive thinkers. This assumption is incorrect as being positive, and staying positive is a choice we make for ourselves. When it comes to building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement it is a choice, not a rule or a talent.
When we start to become responsible for whom we are self esteem building will eventually lead to self improvement. It is just like your oven at home when you light it, it starts off warm then gradually become the inferno you desire. Developing self esteem we start to take control of our life, mission and values. So how do we start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive, contented and happy. Be appreciative of everything around you. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. Living life in a positive way will help you build self esteem and then your confidence will grow.