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How Do I Get My Girlfriend Back? Problem Solved!

“How do I get my girlfriend back?” This was the question I used to ask myself years ago when I broke up with my girl. I searched for the answers in different places. Fortunately, there are hundreds of available resources.

Upon careful studying, I mapped out a plan on how I can get my girl back. Armed with love for her, and a lot of determination, I embarked on the journey to win my ex girlfriend back. Now, I would like to share with you the answer to the question “how do I get my girlfriend back?”

Acceptance. Accept the fate of the relationship no matter how hard it is for you. When you accept the fact that the two of you are no longer together, you will be able to deal with the pain easily. This will get rid of any negative emotions you have towards your ex.

Confidence. This is very important. You have to be able to make her see that you have never been better. She would expect you to be gloomy and miserable so you must not give her the satisfaction of seeing you suffer. When you are confident, you will exude a certain aura that would be appealing to her.

Appearance. Make sure that you look pleasant, if not strikingly-handsome. Though it’s only superficial, you have to admit that you have a better chance of getting your ex back if she has the hots for you. Get a makeover if you can; sport a new look.

Composure. You need to have your wits with you. Remember, you are enacting a plan to get her back so you need to think clearly. Do not beg for her to take you back. This will undo step Number 3. You have to make her know that you are not desperate enough to take her back. Show her that not having you is her loss.

Distance. Be distant both physically and emotionally. First, stay away from her for a period of time. For sure, she’ll expect you to be always by her side since you want her back so you’ll have to do the opposite. Stay away from her and make her miss you. Second, be distant emotionally. Don’t give her the impression that you’ll oblige to her every request. Give her the cold shoulder; be indifferent just to become mysterious to her. But don’t overdo it, unless you want to drive her away.

These are simply the beginning steps that I have discovered on my research.

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Problem Solving: What Holds You Back From Solving The Problem?

Man is inherently prone to either giving up or making up with the problem as they come his paths. Since problem is a great part of one’s life, it is expected for a person to create a suitable and well-adopted entity in him. In fact, man would never be complete unless he passes through many of these.

Life, as we know it, is a mixture of obstacles and highways. If we are to notice this one fact, we would all appreciate the balance that is set, even in the midst of our agonies.

If this is true, then why are there so many people suffering over petty things? Why is it that common perception tells us that when one is in his lowest point, there is nothing more that could save him from destruction? And why is it that when one experiences pain, there is nothing else that creeps in him but pain alone?

These may all be true. But have you ever noticed how the road of your perdition bends to somewhere calmer? To a road that is less traveled because one is overwhelmed with self pity and too much concern on his agonies? To a bend along the ever-crooked road that continuously slopes downhill? To an alley that sheds light to the distressed?

These are not new to you and the road that we are pertaining to here is not a road that you haven’t heard before. Strangely enough though, you have never taken time to turn to this road and explore what avenues it could offer in solving your problem.

Thus, the problem in not solving your problem lies in your belief and convictions, in your pessimistic views of life and in your attention to the dark clouds overhead.

You are the subject here. Thus, the solution or the complication of your problem will be largely dependent on whatever actions you take lies in the attitude you have once you embark on dealing with your problems.

Knowing these, it would be easier to start with solving your problem. However, knowledge alone on the problem without practical initiatives would bring you to nothing. In fact, we are often subjugated when we know too much. Have you ever heard of paralysis in analysis? Well, that’s the very core of the problem. But we are not saying that you must not know your problems well enough. It is just that once we are exposed to the facts relating to our problems, we are further overwhelmed by the odds that we are trying to trample on that in the end, we become hopeless, not wanting to resolve our problems any longer.

Don’t throw up. Don’t hold back. Never quit.

You may have heard all these before but looking at them from another point of view, you will find that these classics are always new, depending on how you apply them to your condition.

When you are trying to solve a problem, never jump on the nearest window that you can see or lay yourself on the nearest mud pool that’s within your sight. Ignore these. Instead, look at the brightest sides of the mountain where the sun rises and where the fields are truly luscious. Seek the nearest spring lakes and hunt for the most wonderful creature within your boundaries.

Change your perspectives. Change the way you look at things. Sometimes, the solution to your problems lies on your very eyes.

Mario Churchill is a freelance author and has written over 200 articles on various subjects. For more information on business ideas or brainstorming checkout his recommended websites.

Self Esteem Games That Builds Up your Confidence Back

Its amazing how most people fail to understand that the depression they have is not depression but low self esteem. Most people tend to shy away from the thought that they have self esteem. For this you must give a self esteem tests which are available on the internet. It will help you to realize that real reason for it and also improve it. But there is one thing that you will definitely like to do. And that is playing games. Yes it is true. Some companies have started online games to keep you mind from getting distracted as well as building up your confidence back. Imagine that you could play a computer game ten minutes every morning and feel more confident. Study shows that people tend to change their negative thoughts when they do certain types of things. It is now being examined whether over time, or in practice people develop positive and beneficial habits of thought that helps them to become more self aware and become more confident.

There are many different types of games that are used for development and building back of your self esteem. These games help you to cope up with all types of situations and build back your self esteem very solid. The games are as follows:

1. Coping skills Games: These types of games teach people how to use activities as a coping mechanism and makes them understand how to use your free time in a positive way that is healthy. In these types of games you will find that it benefits both your mental health and the physical health as well.

2. Communication Skills Games: In these types of games you will find that each communication activity is interactive and it also teaches you a lesson about the importance of communication. Listening to detains can be very important when you try to solve a problem or when attempting to solve a problem by following very complicated directions. Sometimes the details are not essential but most of the times they are most important part of the information that is being conveyed.

3. Self Esteem Games: These types of games help you gain the necessary confidence that you need to build you self esteem. These types of games make you to recognize and to verbalize the positive traits that you possess.

4. Team Work Games: These types of games help you to appreciate the good qualities in the people around you. These types of games make you do your work more sincerely as well as with your team. It helps you acquaint you to work together with your partners and get the problem solved.

Muna wa Wanjiru Has Been Researching and Reporting on Self Esteem for Years. For More Information on Self Esteem Games, Visit His Site at SELF ESTEEM GAMES

Back To Back: Two Good Reads On Entry Level Leadership And Culture

This month, I read two books back to back: Soldier’s Heart by Elizabeth Samet and Punching In by Alex Frankel. Both of these works are an excellent introduction into entry-level corporate culture and leadership development.

Soldier’s Heart is a civilian English professor’s take on the leadership culture of West Point, based on her 10 years experience as a faculty member. Professor Samet is in a rare, but well qualified position to pen Soldier’s Heart. Only a fifth of the academy’s faculty is civilian instructors; the rest are military officers on rotation or “regular Army.” Samet’s academic interest also makes her special; she has studied the dynamic of command and obedience in American literature.

Soldier’s Heart is not the first work about West Point by a soldier or civilian, but it comes from the most interesting perspective: an outside working inside.

Soldier’s Heart has a balanced look at the military culture. Samet writes that no cadet wants to be, in one cadet’s words, a “non-thinking slasher,” someone who would kill for the glory of war, or the sake of killing.

West Point is, and has always been, a literate culture. Classical literature through Armed Forces Editions educates and entertains soldiers in battle, and reinforces American values. She writes of books as weapons to spread ideas, and counter actions meant to curtail freedom. But she also states that tales of war talk of motherhood or a woman’s love for soldiers -but not a woman’s love for soldiering. There is nothing about motherhood in the military culture, but there is the need to fight for mother.

The professor adds that today’s military culture has conflated military missions with spiritual missions; soldiers become instructed to regain faith when there seems to be little cause for faith. However, that might be necessary instruction to lead at a time when officers, enlisted and veterans are questioning our nation’s involvement in Iraq, a war that they believe to be unnecessary.

This faith extends to open displays of the Seven Army Values: Loyalty, Duty, Respect, Selfless Service, Honor, Integrity and Personal Courage. Soldiers tape the Values to their dog tags. Soldiers also display the Soldier’s Creed, officially posted in 2003:

I will always place the mission first
I will never accept defeat
I will never quit
I will never leave behind a fallen comrade.

The Values and the Creed are possible not only because of the culture, but also because our soldiers are professionals who have chosen to serve. Samet sites one Army study that mentions that professional soldiers still fight for each other, as they did, for example in World War II, but they also accept the responsibility that Army has entrusted to them.

The Army, as an institution, has had mottos and mission statements longer than most American businesses, and has a culture where everyone must live by them. Some of the most successful corporations have copied the military’s strengths- and some of its imperfections. According to two online employment sites, GIJobs and CollegeGrad, 24 of the Top 50 Military Friendly Employers in 2007 also hired 100 or more college graduates for their entry-level positions. It is safe to say that these companies use the same values to develop and retain their entry-level and military transitional hires.

Which brings me to the next question: can those without the military orientation become as successful in these firms as those who have served with honor? The answer, according to Alex Frankel’s Punching In, is sometimes, if you can get along to go along.

Values, missions, attention to detail and duty are part of the dialogue in Punching In, another work where an outsider looks inside, and serves on the front lines of indoctrination into corporate culture.

Frankel worked in entry-level customer service positions at United Parcel Service (UPS), Enterprise Rent-A-Car, The Gap, Starbucks and The Apple Store, took online aptitude tests with two retailers: Best Buy and Home Depot and went through the lengthy interview processes at The Container Store and Whole Foods.

Like the Army, these corporations try to engage and turn their workers into fanatical and loyal employees. Interestingly enough, he refers to front-line workers as the Brand Army of these firms and called UPS the Other Army, because of the company’s esprit de coir and the spit and polish appearance of the front-line workers. Both the Army and UPS do not accept alteration, recreational display or desecration of their uniform.

Frankel respected UPS more than the other organizations, because their workers, especially the drivers, were the most trusted. He adds that this is necessary because UPS workers are all in the field. They can track their locations, but any problems must be solved on route. Each driver and their helper is like a platoon of soldiers; they must follow orders, but they have some lee way in how to execute them.

Frankel did not say the same about the other organizations. For example, he praised Enterprise’s efforts to motivate workers to believe that they can advance from desk clerks to regional managers – though he adds that further advancement is less possible. The company hires approximately 8,000 entry-level employees, although the rest of the work force is no larger.

Frankel shows how Starbucks has become a “third place,” a neighborhood-meeting place away from home and work, but believes this will be a difficult strategy to maintain because of the standardized appearance of the thousands of stores and employees. He considers Apple Stores to be an excellent setting for those who are already fans of the technology; they need little indoctrination and training as well. And he shows The Gap to be little different from other retailers who are loathed by retail workers, a company bent on standards and policies that put store design first, product second, credit card sales third and the employees last.

Like the Army, these organizations have a uniform, policies and shared values, but unlike the Army, they can hire and fire at will. It was interesting that Frankel conveyed the most respect for the organization that was the most like the Army.

Given UPS’ success – the company maintains 80 percent market share against several large competitors, including the U.S. Postal Services – that’s quite a complement for our troops and the men and women who lead them.

Stuart Nachbar has been involved with education politics, policy and technology as a student, urban planner, government affairs manager, software executive, and now as author of The Sex Ed Chronicles. Visit his blog, Educated Quest