Having an anger problem is not only detrimental to your health but others are at risk as well. The art of knowing how to control your anger will prove beneficial for your overall behavior. Our anger is simply an emotion brought on through an outside interference. Though the situation may be out of your control, how you handle the anger is in your control.
It is appropriate to become angry when we are feeling threatened; it is, however, not appropriate to act on the anger. If you speed up to cut off the person who cut you off on the highway, it is inappropriate behavior to the anger. Feelings of anger can push your emotions into overdrive resulting in harmful behavior. Learning coping skills can be beneficial in producing a positive outcome to your behavior.
Realizing you are overcome with anger, is extremely important in preventing a negative response. Excusing yourself for time to cool off may be, as simple as leaving the room. Stepping away from anger provoking circumstances will eliminate inappropriate behavior. Using the above driving situation as an example, instead of trying to catch up to the individual who cut you off, pull over and rethink the outcome before resuming your traveling. Pulling over will allow you to relax and continue with a positive reaction.
Using a breathing technique will help relax you if you are in a situation and unable to leave. Learning to relax is a main factor in avoiding a negative reaction to anger. An excellent breathing technique to relax yourself is to inhale deeply through your nose, count to five and deeply exhale out of your mouth. Continue until you feel yourself starting to relax before going back into the situation.
Everybody gets angry, but not everyone reacts with a harmful outcome. If you find yourself continuously feeling angry or you have a lot of anger that has built up, try to express it through a journal. Many times we can get more accomplished when it is visible. Each night write your entire days activities in a journal. Remember to read what you have written, compare it to previous days and see if there are any similarities to your behavior.
Hitting a wall or worse, someone else is a sign the anger is completely out of control. If you are angry everyday for no apparent reason, you will need guidance on how to control the anger. Controlling anger is extremely important; however, finding the source of anger is also important. A therapist trained in anger management will be able to give you coping skills for controlling the anger, as well as, help figure out why you are so angry to begin with.