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Chimpanzee Problem Solving

A brief, interesting clip from National Geographic’s “Ape Genius” documentary, demonstrating problem solving skills in chimpanzees, by using water as a flotation aid to retrieve a treat from a narrow tube. This experiment was conducted at the Max Planck Institute in Leipzig, Germany.

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Chimpanzee Problem Solving

A brief, interesting clip from National Geographic’s “Ape Genius” documentary, demonstrating problem solving skills in chimpanzees, by using water as a flotation aid to retrieve a treat from a narrow tube. This experiment was conducted at the Max Planck Institute in Leipzig, Germany.

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Get A Grip! Stop Being Controlled By Anger!

Is anger ruining your life and making you miserable? Do you have an anger problem? Uncontrolled anger will eventually drive away the very people you care about the most. If anger is destroying your relationships and affecting your work it’s time to get a grip and get help!

Using a simple anger management quiz can help people see if they have a problem with anger management. There are some common features of people with anger problems.To find out if you, or someone you care about would benefit from an anger management class answer about these questions:

1. Do you become angry more often than most other people around you?

2. Have you been told that you have an anger problem by family, friends or work colleagues?

3. Do you feel as if your anger is explosive and increases very quickly?

4. Have you ever had an ‘anger blackout’? Have you said and done things in anger that you do not remember doing? Have you been shocked by things you have later found out you said or did while very angry?

5. Have you had problems at work because of anger? Has anyone at work complained about your behavior?

6. Do you experience road rage, swearing and abusing other drivers frequently?

7. Have you ever hit anyone, adult or child when you were angry?

8. Have you broken furniture, smashed objects or damaged possessions in an anger outburst?

9. Have you been in trouble with the law because of an anger outburst such as assault?

10. Do you feel miserable and depressed most days and only feel energized if you are angry? Do you cycle from depression into anger frequently?

11. After an angry outburst do you feel depressed, guilty and worthless once the anger is out of control? Do you feel remorseful and promise yourself and others it won’t happen again?

12. Do you use abusive language, swearing, sarcasm and pointing out others faults as your anger increases?

13. Do you feel criticized and react by blaming and humiliating others when they want to talk about a problem they have with you? Do you say things in anger that you later regret?

14. Do you feel increasing anxiety in situations of rising anger and conflict, just before you have the angry outburst?

All these are signs of an anger problem. Most people who have a problem with anger know it inside, even if they will not admit it to others. They usually feel miserable and powerless to change. Often anger has isolated them from family and friends and they feel quite lonely and unwanted.

The good news is that anger problems are treatable. You CAN change and begin to enjoy life again. But the first step is to admit the real extent of the problem to yourself and then get some help to fix it.

The Internet has made it is possible to attend professional anger management classes in the privacy of your own home, working at your own pace. For many people this is a cost effective, private way to get help for their anger management problem.

Kate Hardy is a health professional who enjoys working with angry adults and teens. FAST Online Anger Management Classes. Guaranteed. Immediate Start! FREE anger Management articles

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Stress Management and the Art of Being Present

Stress can only occur when we are either focused on the past of the future. Stress cannot exist when we are fully present in the now. The challenge many of us experience is that we find it difficult to control our minds from wondering into the past or future and consequently our stress management takes a turn for the worse.

In improving your stress management ability you need to appreciate that the mind is such a powerful tool; it determines the way you see the world. Your current view of yourself and your life is formed by the way your mind thinks about them and, in doing so, creates your reality. It also does something else that can cause feelings of stress. It projects thoughts into the future and can paint a negative picture about the way a situation may unfold. This is called negative mind projection.

The mind often does this when it’s concerned about a particular situation that has yet to occur. It tries to gain control of this future situation by hypothesising various outcomes of the way it believes it may play out and in doing so derails our stress management capability.

Here’s an example:

Imagine you have been asked to make a short presentation at your end of year staff party. This is a function that everyone in the company attends and something people look forward to. It’s also a wonderful opportunity to get to know the senior executives in a more casual manner.

Later on you start to think about your presentation. Your mind starts to churn out countless thoughts about it. You start to second guess your abilities to present in front of everyone and start to think about what would happen if it didn’t go well. Before you know it you’ve played out the whole evening in your mind and breakout in a cold sweat just thinking about all the potentially disastrous scenarios that could occur.

This negative mind projection is what often causes feelings of stress and blocks our ability for effective stress management. When you perceive a future event to be potentially threatening or unpleasant, you allow stress the opportunity to enter your body. So why do we negative mind project in the first place? What benefit does it give us?

The answer is interesting. The ego, which takes responsibility for our feelings of adequacy and worth, makes a promise. It promises that it will look after our self-esteem and protect us from anything that may compromise it. It does so by creating the feeling that we are in control of our lives. As a result, it prepares us for what could happen in the future by presenting the worst case scenario for any future events. What better way to protect the ego than by pointing out all the potentially threatening or embarrassing possibilities?

This is how the ego tricks us, by creating the illusion that it will protect and prepare us for these future scenarios. It makes us believe that it’s a valuable stress management exercise. The reality is that all it offers is a vague hypothesis of what may or may not happen.

Negative mind projection creates feelings of stress when you feel the pain of a future event going wrong as if it is actually happening to you in the present. You live your future experience as if it was fast tracked into your present moment. This is the ego’s attempt assist us in stress management by bringing some kind of control to an unknown event in the future.

The consequence of negative mind projection is that it destroys the quality of the present moment and replaces it with anxiety and stress. So what can you do to improve your stress management by preventing your mind from projecting in this way?

As we’ve already discussed, if you leave your mind alone without a particular focus it will often default to thinking negatively. In order for you to master your mind and control your stress management you need to instruct it otherwise. If you let it default you take the risk of allowing these thoughts to control you.

In mastering your mind you need to tell it how you want it to serve you. It can’t be your servant if you allow it to use negative mind projection. Remember, you don’t have a crystal ball to see into the future and it’s not possible to know for certain how every future situation will unfold. Don’t waste your thoughts wondering and predicting the unknown. Time is better spent setting goals, desires and intentions rather than worrying about whether they’ll actually happen.

The stress management approach that will help is that as soon as you become aware that you are feeling stressed about future situations, use your mind to skilfully focus your thoughts on how you would like the situation to turn out. Think about it optimistically and bring your attention back to your actions in the present moment. Inevitably, your mind will keep projecting your thoughts into the future so keep them focused on a positive outcome.

Be mindful that the only thing that is real is the present moment. The past is history and the future is unknown. When your focus is maintained on your present actions the feeling of stress will minimised.

InnerCents specialised in stress management, leadership training and executive coaching.

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Chimpanzee Problem Solving by Cooperation

A brief, interesting clip from National Geographic’s “Ape Genius” documentary, demonstrating problem solving skills in chimpanzees, by requesting cooperation. Also shows chimpanzees providing assistance to humans, by noticing assistance is needed, and retrieving out of reach objects for their human companions. As time goes on, it becomes more and more obvious that the great apes are our evolutionary cousins. I would hope everyone viewing this would be able to share in my astonishment and awe at the brilliance displayed by these amazing creatures. More Information: sciencelinks.jp Transcript: www.pbs.org