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investigation of the relation between learning self-regulation and self esteem


The main purpose of this study is investigation of the relation between learning self-regulation and self esteem with methods of coping stress in the third grade student of Shiraz School District I high schools. The study method is descriptive and of correlation type. To measure the variables, we have used Learning Self Regulation Strategies questionnaire (SRQ3) of Buffard et al (1995), Blinks, Moss and Alahe Coping Techniques questionnaire (1995)and the abbreviated form the Cooper Smith Self esteem questionnaire. In this study, we have used multistage cluster sampling method. The sample consists of 380 third grader high school students in Shiraz School district 1 (205 female and 175 male students), selected by the cluster method. For analysis of data and finding the type of the relation between the variables under study, the Pearson Correlation Coefficient, multivariate regression and the t-test were used. The findings showed that

-There is a positive significant correlation between the self regulation and ways of coping stress in students.

-There is a positive significant correlation between self esteem and ways of coping stress in students.

-There is no significant difference between male and female students regarding learning self regulation and

-There is no significant difference between male and female students regarding self esteem.

-Male students have a higher level of self esteem than female students.

-There is a significant difference between male ad female students as regards their ways of coping with stress.

-Male students use mostly problem-centered coping strategies while female students mostly use emotion-centered coping strategies.

-Among the aspects of self regulation, the motivation aspect has the ability to predict strategies of coping with stress.

-Among the self esteem aspects, the general self esteem aspect has the ability to predict strategies for coping with stress.



Published author in Iran.

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Anger and the Differences Between Men and Women

“War of the sexes.” “He says, she says.” “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.” Nowadays, everything seems to be about the difference between the sexes. What about differences in how we get angry and how those differences translate into angry and sometimes inappropriate outbursts? Do men handle anger differently then women do?

Men typically lose control faster than women do. Women tend to stay in control even when their feelings intensify.

Men tend to have an easy time of learning to control their anger once they understand how hurtful their actions have become. Once women give in to their anger, they have a more difficult time ignoring it.

The differences can be traced to biology. Men tend to bottle things up and not want to talk about their feelings. Women need to be able to let go of their emotions. Given these differences; the first step in anger management is different for men than for women. Men need to identify the emotions associated with their anger episodes and women need to understand how to control the negative aspects of the emotions associated with their anger.

After the first step, anger management is pretty much the same for both men and women. Both sexes can benefit from using an anger management journal to record what happens when they lose their battle to control their anger. Men and women both are capable of identifying triggers (things that set off anger). Problem solving can lead to alternative ways of handling anger-causing situations. Both men and women can accomplish this task.

Anger management also involves being able to understand weakness in others and what motivates actions taken by those involved in episodes of anger. Both men and women learn to forgive themselves and others. Perhaps one of the most important aspects of anger management is learning that controlling anger can be a freeing experience.

One common factor or trigger of anger for both men and women is the issue of forgiveness and its associated problem, the presence of guilt. The inability to forgive can lead to being angry. Guilt is a big predecessor to anger, because when we feel guilty we tend to feel bad about ourselves. This guilt can lead to feeling ashamed or depressed Often times when we feel this way we take it out on others in the form of anger. Understanding the role of guilt and learning how to forgive can help men and women to better manage their anger.

Part of learning how to manage anger is networking with others dealing with the same issues. Men have a more difficult time joining anger management groups and classes. It usually is more difficult for men to open up and talk about their feelings. Women on the other hand are more comfortable in social situations usually and are more comfortable talking about their feelings.

Anger management issues are equally important for men and women when it comes to their relationships. Not being able to control anger can damage relationships, so it is equally important for both men and women to be honest with those they have relationships with in regards to their achievements towards anger management.

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What Is The Link Between Self-Esteem And Saying No



The most common problem that I hear about from my coaching clients and the participants in any of the self-esteem courses that I lead is a difficulty with saying no. The vast majority of people seem to find it very, very difficult to say no.


I think that there are two different kinds of nos that we need to learn to say. The first of these nos is the no that we need to say to others when they ask us to do something that we don’t feel like doing. Most people find this difficult because they are anxious that the other person might dislike them or think that they are unhelpful if they don’t accept to do them the favour. The second no is the no that we have to say to ourselves when we automatically start to do something that we do not actually want to do. Many people spend lots of time doing things that they don’t like to do becuase they feel that others might be expecting them to do it. For example, they may clean the house just becuase they think that others consider clean houses to be important, or they may prepare breakfast to their teenage son even though they know that he is perfectly able to do this himself.


Not being able to say no is bad for your self-esteem. When you spend lots of time on things that you don’t like and that you don’t gain anything from, you are telling yourself that you are not important. Instead of spending time on what is important to you, you fill your life with activities that are for the sake of other people. In other words, you are telling yourself that others are more important than yourself.


Who is the person that you are going to spend the rest of your life with? It’s you! You, you, and only you! Therefore, the best thing that you can do to create a happy life is to create a good relationship with yourself. The way to do this is to increase your self-esteem. To increase your self-esteem you need to spend time on yourself, and on what increases your happiness and wellbeing.


I’m not saying that you should never help others, but I’m saying that you should only do so when you want to do it. Being helpful can feel great, and it is therefore often very good for your self-esteem. It is NOT good however, to help others when you don’t want to.


When you start to say no to things that you don’t want to do, you are respecful to yourself. When you show respect to yourself, others will also start to do the same to you. By saying no, you will gain a higher self-esteem, and greater respect from others.


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Whats the difference between Self Esteem and Self Confidence?

It seems the terms self-confidence and self esteem are used interchangeably.  And we all want more of both of them!

But what is the difference, and why does that matter?

Dictionary.com defines them as:

Self esteem:  A realistic respect for or favourable impression of oneself; self-respect.

Self confidence:   Realistic confidence in one’s own judgment, ability, power, etc.

Your self esteem is based around how much you like yourself, irrespective of your abilities, position or anything else.  Having a high self esteem means you are comfortable with yourself and happy with the person you are.  This doesn’t mean you will not strive for more, but will do so for your own satisfaction.  Those with high self esteem will never feel inadequate or inferior to others as they are content with the person they are, flaws and all.

Self confidence is based around your confidence in your abilities which is quite separate, although linked with, self esteem.  Self confidence can also vary in different situations.  You may feel completely confident in your ability to do your job well – high self confidence –  but have no confidence in your ability to ice skate – low self confidence.

Now, you may be thinking, but I have never been ice-skating, of course I would have low confidence in that area.  But not necessarily.  You can have confidence that you will do your best and learn quickly.  Going ice-skating  with this attitude makes it more likely that you will learn quickly, reinforcing your positive self confidence.  However if you have the attitude ‘I’ll be so useless at this, I’m bound to fall on my bottom and make a fool of myself’ then that is what is likely to happen, reinforcing your poor self confidence.

As long as you have high self esteem you will enjoy the ice skating whether you are good, bad or indifferent at it. (Or maybe decide you really don’t like it and will never go again!  But that’s fine too, you are happy enough with yourself to realise you will not enjoy everything)

So how do they affect each other?  Well generally, if self esteem is high so is self confidence and vice versa.  There are exceptions to this however as someone can portray great self confidence at something but not particularly like themselves.

If your self esteem is high, your confidence tends to be high as you accept your faults, strengths weaknesses and act accordingly.  You can be rubbish at painting but realise that you can’t be good at everything and maintain your high self esteem.

Developing high self confidence can raise our self esteem.  As you become more confident in your actions and achievements (no matter how large or small), you recognise you are a competent, able person and therefore self esteem is raised.


Self esteem and self confidence go hand in hand, and for you to live the best life you can, you must work on both.  They can both improve quickly, significantly and drastically in a small space of time, with just a little work. 

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What Is The Difference Between Self-Esteem And Self-Confidence?


Many people use the words self-esteem and self-confidence as if they were synonyms. Self-esteem and self-confidence are different. Self-confidence is one part of self-esteem. Self-esteem is the broader category and self-confidence is one out of many subcategories of self-esteem.


Self-confidence means confidence that you can successfully do things. If you are self-confident you believe in your ability to accomplish the things that you set out to do. You can have high confidence in some areas while having low confidence in other areas. For example, you may feel confident in your ability to do well at work, but you lack confidence when it comes to building and maintaining deep and fulfilling relationships.


Your level of self-confidence affects how well you manage to accomplish whatever it is that you’re trying to do. A person who is confident that she will pass an interview is much more likely to do so than a person who does not believe that she will be able to do it. Self-confidence thus affects your success in life in a very practical way.


Self-esteem, on the other hand, means your sense of personal worth. It refers to how valuable you feel for simply being the person you are regardless of what you accomplish. It is your attitude towards yourself as the person you perceive yourself to be. Therefore, it is much broader than self-confidence, as your self-esteem is the sum you get when you add up all your perceptions of yourself in terms of what you accomplish, how you feel, how you’re behaving towards others, how others behave towards you, what happens to you during your life, your body perception and so on.


Self-esteem naturally has wider consequences than self-confidence. It affects your relationships with other people, what kind of events and people that you attract into your life, your mental health, your physical health and much more. In fact, self-esteem affects EVERYTHING. If there is anything you want to change in your life – whether it is a specific problem or if you want to improve in some area – you have to start by raising your self-esteem. You may manage to raise your self-esteem as a byproduct of working on something else, or you may have to focus on your self-esteem directly.


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