Children’s Self Esteem – What is the Best of the Self Esteem Boosters?
Children’s self esteem is not as difficult a thing to build as we think. Especially now a days with the self esteem boosters we have coming out of our ears. See, we parents all have the same excuse: “I don’t have time.”
Unless you’ve fallen off this blue planet into a time vortex in another dimension, or someone hit “pause” on your planet’s remote and you were literally in a freeze-frame all day long, this excuse doesn’t hold water. What most parents mean when they say that is:
I made time for what really mattered to me. Notice you weren’t on the list. Now bug off, you’re wasting my time.
Alright, maybe that’s not what we mean to say at all. Believe me–I know what you mean, I know where you’re coming from. The sad truth is, we all live on this same planet orbiting the same star rotating the same 24 hours the same 7 days of the same week. Time passes at the rate of one second per second. No faster, no slower.
We have the same amount of time. We just have periods of time in which we’re busy doing the things that keep the lights on and heater working. We have bills to pay, futures to save money for, college tuition to plan for–right? Certainly.
Do you know what the kids hear? Re-read the bold area above. All that matters is time and if you gave them any of yours. They see you leave in the morning, or they don’t, as you go to work. They see you return, perhaps exhausted. Then they see you go to bed.
Listen, this isn’t meant to bust your chops about how you need to spend time you don’t have with your kids. It’s rather a call to you (from a very busy dad of 7 kids and counting) to do one simple thing:
Schedule time with your kids if you haven’t been doing that. Be consistent.
Building your children’s self esteem is about time, if it’s about anything at all. You have a myriad of self esteem boosters to choose from with these little people. What you choose is entirely up to you–just busy yourself in doing it. Get at their level and see eye-to-eye, and get to know them, shape and inform them, celebrate them.
For instance, a small way you can use self esteem boosters that don’t cost you much time is to simply ask your children how their day went when you walk in the door. Then just listen to them, and ask leading questions. Show them you’re actually interested.
When that’s done–maybe 15 minutes later–you’ll discover they may be hungry for more. That’s a good thing. Whet their appetite for other self esteem boosters, like patiently explaining that you hated homework, too. Tell them how you missed them at work, and do the simple task of hugging them tightly when you see them.
As the years pass by, your return on investment with all these little activities will become apparent. Watch as your children’s self esteem flourishes into a sure-footed and self confident adult who can’t wait to return the favor. Remember, it’s all about time. Give them what you’ve got, and if you don’t have time on your list, then it’s time to get a new list.