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Boosting Your Child’s Self-Esteem

One of the most important aspects of personal growth is developing a healthy self-concept. What we think of ourselves, and the way we decide how to value ourselves, makes more difference than almost any other factor in determining what we do with our lives. Parents have the awe- some responsibility and privilege of guiding their children to develop a healthy sense of self. Following are some guidelines to help in that task.

PRAISE

Everybody needs praise, but not all praise is equal. To be effective, praise must be genuine: “I like the way you are remembering your assignments,” rather than, “Wow! You’re so smart you’ll soon leave all the other kids behind.”

The most effective praise may be directed toward the child’s weakest areas: “I know it’s hard for you to keep your room clean, so I’m really proud of the job you’ve done this week.” By letting her know you notice her e orts in these tough areas, you bolster her con?dence.

CRITICISM

Help your child develop the “emotional shrug” to handle criticism.  Learning to distinguish between justifed and unjusti?ed criticism is a big ?rst step. Then the child can learn to respond to justi?ed criticism by agreeing and thanking the person. He can also learn to respond politely to unjusti?ed criticism and let it “roll off his shoulders.”

TEASING AND INSULTS

These are really the same as unjusti?ed criticism, and the “emotional shrug” is appropriate. Empathize with your child and help her learn to respond kindly and with pride to such behavior.

REJECTION

It’s tough to be overlooked for an honor, not invited to a party, cut from the team, or turned down for a date. Through patience and empathy help your child to affirm his worth despite disappointments. Teach him to work on being his best self, developing positive relationships, and emphasizing his strengths.

Help your child understand that she will not be the best in everything, and some people will not like her, but that she is a good person and is important to you and to God.

APPEARANCE

Encourage your child to learn to like his appearance even if he isn’t a “hunk” or she isn’t “Miss America.” Teach good grooming and help him learn how far a smile can go toward making a person attractive. If she really is overweight or underweight help her to work toward healthy eating and activities to normalize the weight, but don’t push.

MISTAKES

No one can be perfect, so help your child learn how to handle mistakes and failures. Tell him about your own failures and how you got past them.

Teach your child to set reasonable goals and work toward achieving them, but not to be dismayed when she comes up a bit short. Show her Tong Bi Quan-Mandarin-a martial art that mimics the actions of the long arms of an ape. that giving your best e ort is more important than succeeding.

SPIRITUAL RESOURCES FOR SELF-ESTEEM

Your child is a person of worth be- cause God created him as a person of worth–and that’s true of you, too.

Sometimes we teach children, “God loves you when you are kind . . . or do your homework well . . . or mind your parents” . . . or whatever else we want them to do.

We should be teaching them, “God loves you!” Period, exclamation mark, and de?nitely no question mark!

The very best source of a healthy self-esteem, for your child, and for you, is knowing you are accepted and loved by God. Then, on the basis of his acceptance and love, you can accept yourself and free yourself to be all you can be.

Melvin Grant is a contributing writer for Martial Arts Monthly magazine.

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Boosting Your Teenager’s Self-esteem – Important Tips For Parents

Every parent, ideally, would like their child to develop enough Self-Esteem so that they can succeed in life. This all starts the moment a child emerges from birth, and continues as the child ventures out into the world, as they mature into adulthood.

Studies show that there are two ways in Self-Esteem is defined by adults. This is how adults can perceive oneself, to others. Teens, on the other hand, feel that if they are to fit in with the rest of their peers, they have to act cool and join in with others.

Is there a reason for this difference? This could be due to the age gap as adults have had time to experience more and can distinguish between important matters against trivial ones. Teenagers are still in the learning Process and finding their feet.

So, what changes should adults make in order to continue to build up Self-Esteem in a teenager? Teens are in the age of discovery, so the best thing an adult can do is to be open to answering any questions on particular subjects, and support each individual in the choices that they make.

For example, if a teenager wants to try out for the football team, parents hope for the best for them that things will work out fine. Others, will want to look out for their child and try to avoid them hurting themselves in any kind of sport.

Parents also discipline a teenager for any wrong behaviour which is another part of building Self-Esteem. They should explain why they have done something wrong which is better than yelling, to enable the individual to understand what is unacceptable behaviour, in the hope that they will not make the same mistake again.

Another way of to build Self-Esteem, is that parents should know when to comfort their child when things don’t quite work out. If parents decide that they have to go their separate ways, a teenager will feel devastated if a couple break up, as it is their first love which comes from both parents. All parents can do is say that everything will work itself out in the end, and maybe, someone better will come along in the future.

Self-Esteem does not come from just the parents; it also comes from teachers your child meets when they start school and those that are considered friends by the teenager. Other adults then hold the responsibility of ‘moulding their child’ into respectable adults.

Friends are very much like parents, in being able to offer comfort if their son or daughter feels they are too ashamed to open up to them about certain issues in life.

By building Self-Esteem, this helps the teenager to evolve. A person can change if they feel the need, or they can stay where they are if they happy – their ‘comfort zone’. Life doesn’t always turn out as one would expect, so this is gives the perfect chance to start afresh, as though giving oneself a new lease of life.

An individual eventually learns that Self-Esteem is innate, once they have discovered their strengths and weaknesses. They can adapt by focussing on what they are good at, and learn to acquire new ‘tricks’ to improve on those weak points as they come across them.

It is true to say, that when all else fails and the teenager feels like they have a heavy load on their shoulder, it is the parents that they can turn to. This is the biggest responsibility of being a parent, and once their son or daughter grows up and ,maybe, decides that is time to have their own children, the guardians can take a break.

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Boosting Self-esteem In Kids – 3 Self-esteem Building Activities

When bringing up a child, one of the biggest concerns that face parents is their child’s Self-Concept and Self-Esteem. Parents must try to find a balance when teaching their children how to value themselves and their natural abilities; allowing them enough independence to grow and learn to make their own decisions, whilst at the same time guiding them on the right path. This gives them Self-Esteem.

Allowing your child too much freedom can make them rebellious as they get older, whilst if you are overyly strict this can lead them to losing their independence and self confidence; which may lead to dependency on others. They may be not be able to face the big, wide world on their own which is what any parent would wish to avoid – a child that is too clingy.

Anyone can develop Self-Esteem at any age but encouraging your child to learn from an early age and praising their individual talents, will help to build their trust in their own decision making, as they grow in confidence and learn to recognise their own natural gifts – a step towards building their Self-Esteem.

The following are activities to help increase your child’s Self-Esteem:

1. Self-Affirming Statements

Stand facing a mirror, telling yourself what a great person you are; this may seem childish, but for a child, it is a great, fun way to boost their Self-Esteem as well as yours – try it! You don’t have to stick to the mirror process, but make up your own words of ‘Self-Affirming Statements’. Remember to stick to these basics and you should do fine.

Create mantras that a child can remember easily. Each morning, start by saying the mantra to your child, and have them repeat it back to you so that it becomes their mantra. They do not have to be statements about yourself, they could be about each other, such as, “I love you”, or statements about complimenting each other. The mantras can vary, as long as the essence is on ‘affirming oneself’.

2. The Positive Trait Game

The Positive Trait Game is an activity that boosts Self-Esteem as well as helping to increase your child’s vocabulary. The game involves telling each other a Positive Trait that you can see in the other, by using a word – only the key point of the game involves thinking of a word that begins with a specific letter of the alphabet. The child learns by picking up new words that they haven’t come across and understanding their meaning for future use – that is to say they are increasing their vocabulary.

This encourages your child to think positively about themselves; to acknowledge and recognise their own unique traits and talents. They will grow up knowing where their strengths lie.

3. Engaging In Activities That Your Child Love

Involve your child in a variety of activities that will encourage their own talents and abilities. Be open-minded and enrol them in Summer classes, including activities that are new to them, to broaden their horizons and increase their skills. Even if they don’t enjoy themselves, at least they will have acquired new skills. Helping them to discover new talents that they are good at, will boost their Self-Esteem at an early age. What better way to increase their enthusiasm to learn and develop more!

Abhishek is a Self-Development expert and he has got some great Self-Esteem Boosting Secrets up his sleeves! Download his FREE 52 Pages Ebook, “How To Boost Your Self-esteem” from his website http://www.Positive-You.com/668/index.htm . Only limited Free Copies available.