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During the times when you think that your day just could not get any worse, but it does, do you feel like you are about to reach your boiling point? What do you usually do to release your tension? Anger is but a normal part of the human emotion. However, different people deal with anger in different ways, which is why it is necessary to determine whether you have anger management problems.

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Anger which gets out of control can easily turn into a full-fledged rage, which could have very unpleasant results. The people around you, your work and your lifestyle in general can get affected if you do not learn how to curb any excessive energy resulting from anger.

If you feel like you have the tendency to be easily annoyed over little things, but you do not want to be a slave to this very powerful emotion, then take a look at these tips on how you can keep your cool – and learn to understand, control and better manage your anger:

Analyze where all your pent-up rage is coming from.

Be it from a bad experience in your past, or a mere annoyance over a certain behavior or a particular person, remember that you need to determine the cause of your anger. By understanding where the emotion is coming from, you can be more level-headed when facing similar circumstances to have a better grasp of your emotions and learn how to overcome this often aggressive feeling.

Think of ways on how you can positively release your tension.

Think of an angry mother cat who will physically hurt or lash out on a human being who she feels is threatening her litter of kittens. Physically releasing your anger is normal, but unlike animals, humans have the ability to control their own destructive instincts by thinking levelly.

Whenever you feel a rage coming on, you can first express your anger, then suppress any emotion which may prove harmful to others by calming yourself. This is not saying that you should not express your anger and just keep it inside of you – this is also unhealthy. You just need to find an outlet which is not harmful to yourself and to others, think of other ways to release the tension, and learn how to calm yourself in the process.

Life in general may not be easy, and there is always something or someone that will put frown lines on your face and cause you to be angry. In such cases, just remember that it is okay to feel angry. However, if you will just let your emotions like anger take control of your life, you will end up unhappy, easily irritable and you will not succeed in your relationships with other people.  You may not be able to completely change a person or a situation, but what you can change is the way that you deal with your problems by learning how to react positively and not let anger get the better of you.

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Have you ever found yourself angry with people you care about and didn’t seem able to stop yourself? Do people who love you tell you that you have anger management issues? Have you lost some important relationships or created problems for yourself at work because you couldn’t seem to control your angry behavior?

If this describes you, then you need to regain control and stop yourself from hurting others. The first thing to do is to recognize that you are choosing your anger. What? Choosing my anger? Why in the world would I do that? Well, there are several reasons people may choose anger. Let’s see which one best describes you.

Some people use anger to intimidate others and subsequently get what they want. In this way, the angry person is able to control the behavior of others.

Some people use their anger as a way of getting attention. If a person needs attention, it doesn’t always matter whether that attention is positive or negative, as long as someone is noticing him or her.

Anger can also be used as a tactic to avoid responsibility. If a person doesn’t want to do something, anger can be a valid way to get out of it.

Similar to wanting attention, sometimes people are feeling small and insignificant and anger works to pump themselves up or provide courage to do something scary.

And others use it as an emotional release, much the same way a pressure cooker lets off steam. Anger has energy. When someone is experiencing things that are frustrating, he or she may not be dealing with his or her anger. Instead of processing it, cognitively restructuring some belief systems or working out the energy physically, anger can provide a much needed release valve.

Do you recognize yourself in any of those scenarios? When you lose your temper, which one of these reasons best identifies what you are trying to accomplish? Perhaps you have yet another reason. One thing I know for sure is that you always behave in your best attempt to get something you want. Your behavior is never random and it never “just happens” to you.

It’s a very subtle difference but an important one nonetheless. All behavior is proactive. You do not choose a behavior because of something that occurred outside of you. For example, I can remember asking my youngest son to clean his room. He said he would do it later-only later never came. So, I patiently asked him a second time. Again, he said he’d do it later. This went on for most of the day. Finally, in exasperation, I lost my temper with him and yelled at him about cleaning his room.

The question is why did I get angry? Most people would say I got angry because my son wouldn’t do what I asked. However, the real reason is that I used my anger as my best attempt to get my son to clean his room. (Just for the record, it didn’t work very well.)

Why am I making this seemingly insignificant distinction? Because once you become conscious of the reasons you are choosing your behavior, then you can consciously choose to do something more responsible and more effective.

More responsible means you are getting your needs met without interfering with other people meeting theirs. Effective means it actually works to get you what you really want.

When you use anger, it is not responsible because anger almost always interferes with the other person getting his or her needs met. You definitely have not only the right, but also the responsibility to get your needs met but not at the expense of someone else.

Underlying most reasons for choosing anger, you are probably attempting to improve an important relationship in your life. Anger will never work to do that. You may get the initial satisfaction of getting the other person to do your bidding, but you have damaged something in the relationship.

You must make a proactive plan about what you are going to do instead of using anger. It should be something that has at least an equal chance of getting you what you want while supporting others in their process of getting their own needs met.

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