You Can be Great If You Really Want To

Anger really is one of the most detrimental emotions in life in general as well as when on the golf course. For someone who suffers from the grips of this emotion it is useful to have several different methods to fall back upon so as to stop anger from ruining your golf. The following is a short list of anger management tips which you may find useful.

1. Breathing – Your mind and body are intrinsically linked. Mind works on body, body works on mind. It’s impossible for your mind to be tense and your body relaxed and vice versa. By relaxing your breathing you will automatically relax your mind. Breathe through your abdomen, not your chest. Five deep breaths will do the trick.

2. Reach for that Hamlet – Remember the Hamlet cigar advert? Try it without a cigar for a healthy version – take a step back, sit under a tree and take a few deep breaths – that’ll relax you nicely. It’s not the nicotine which relaxes you (nicotine is a stimulant, after all); it’s the step back and the deep breath which does the trick.

3. Ping an elastic band – you’ve seen smokers doing this one. Wear an elastic band on your wrist and every time you get a thought or feeling you don’t want to have you ping the band hard so that it hurts you so much you can’t even feel angry!

4. Go to your happy place – Everyone can do this one. Remember the film “Happy Gilmore”?

5. Pre shot routine – Hopefully, you all have one of these. The reason for having a consistent pre-shot routine is to absorb your mind in the detail of the task at hand, and in so doing any other not-so-productive thoughts are displaced. If you thought it unnecessary to have a set routine, think again.

6. Post shot routine – De-Brief. I bet not many golfers have one of these. It’s an “OK that happened. Not what I wanted, but it did.” Then you visualize what you did want to happen and replace the memory immediately, so that next time you come across a similar situation you remember the perfect shot (not the duff one that you did hit). How can you feel angry when you’re choosing to remember the perfect shot?

7. Think “smooth” – smooth movements. Angry people are tense and jerky. Consciously smooth out your walk, pretend you’re gliding, floating along the fairway, and then it’s impossible to feel angry. Like I said before your mind and body are intrinsically linked.

8. Be in the “now” – you might think you are, but are your thoughts really on the present moment? A Stanford University study found that the average person has 60,000 thoughts a day, 59,500 of which are the same as the day before – indicating that it’s a really tiny percentage of time that people are really “in the now”. If you’re in the now, you can’t worry about past failures, you can’t worry about future outcomes; all you are doing is concentrating on the present and there’s nothing in the present that can really make you angry.

9. Dissociation – have you ever had that feeling that you’re there, but not there? Or maybe a feeling that you can almost float up onto the ceiling and look down at yourself? This is great on the golf course. Imagine how good you could feel, just drifting out of your body, floating up in the air and distancing yourself from all those unnecessary emotions? You could even float right on off to your happy place!

10. Where there’s a will, there’s a way – If you want to deal with things better you can; if you don’t want to you can’t.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in golf hypnosis cds and hypnosis mp3 downloads.

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It can be quite daunting taking part in stress management course if you are not sure what to expect. A lot of people do not approach with an open mind – which is vital for success.

Many people will assume that stress management courses are not necessary because they perceive stress management as common sense. My experience suggests that these people are, in fact, misinformed and they could benefit greatly from attending this type of course.

The reason for this is that a stress management course is not just about managing personal stress. It is also about learning to identify, control and benefit / reduce the stress of others.

If you are thinking of attending or recommending a course on stress for your organisation or small business, my advice is to make sure everyone (including yourself) approaches it with an open mind.

The content covered in the course will vary but the course outline will largely contain the same topics. Here is a brief outline of a typical stress management course:

- Why it is important

- The cycle

- Internal and external influences

- Optimising your state

- How to tune your state up and down

- Building resilience through exercises and nutritional awareness

- Problems vs outcomes and how to deal with both

- Awareness – How you make other stressed

- Building minimum stress teams

In the first half of the course will cover topics that will go over the definition of stress, recognising the symptoms and understanding why the management of it is important.

The second part of the stress management course will begin to focus on the factors of stress and how to recognise influences of stress (internal and external) using a variety of methods and techniques.

Following this, the stress management course will begin to help you develop skills on how to handle stress for yourself and others around you (employees, staff, etc). This part of the stress management course is very important because it gives you practical methods that have been to proven to relieve stress. From experience, members usually find this part of the course most exciting due to active participation.

The final part of the course focuses on some advanced methods of stress training such as building minimum teams, improving awareness and how to deal with problems and outcomes.

Stress management courses are available onsite (A trainer will travel to the organisation) or at specified training facilities. We’ve found that onsite training has been a popular choice for large organisations and also small businesses.

Learning to control anger is a huge task for some individuals. Wanting to and being able to do it are two entirely different things. A person with anger issues may be committed to making changes in their behavioral patterns in the heart and mind but without setting these intentions in motion, there won’t be any positive results. People like this require encouragement and support. They need to realize that they are not unique in their problem but in fact there are thousands more just like them. Singling out an individual with anger management issues is not a good move. However encouraging them and letting them know they are not alone in this fight may make a difference in their decision to seek help.

An anger management course may be suggested to an individual seeking help for their problem. These courses are designed to help people, in a group setting, to learn about anger management. These courses may take a day and sometimes anger management courses are turned into a retreat. Throughout these courses, people are taught useful lessons in anger management such as techniques and strategies for controlling their anger. They are taught to deal with their feelings and emotions, discover what it is that brings out the fits of rage. Some courses focus specifically on one topic, like letting go of negative emotions, releasing bad energy and transforming it into success and freedom. There are many lessons to be learned through attending an anger management course.

Anger management courses are not only targeted at adults. There are programs such as retreats and camps for children, adolescents and teenagers as well. Teenagers might take in an anger management course that is provided at a beautiful camp. Besides sitting in on classes and lectures with regards to the anger management course, there would also be opportunities to interact with other teenagers, to take part in fun activities and form friendships. An anger management course for a teenager may result in a person forming their own support system, people to call on when they are overwhelmed by challenging situations. An anger management course can provide so much more than information.

An anger management course may be the most powerful tool an individual may use to combat their anger issues. For people who a trying daily to fight their negative emotions and deal with their anger, it is important to be involved in programs which offer support and understanding. Attending an anger management course would prove to an individual that there are people who care, who understand and who are committed to helping them with their problem. In a group setting, an individual would not feel singled out and may not feel intimidated or humiliated. Because the entire group is experiencing similar problems, there would be a general sense of understanding.

If an individual is interested in attending an anger management course, perhaps they should check with local resources such as a doctor or medical professional. There is also likely to be a mental health organization or program in the area, they would definitely have details about upcoming anger management courses. The Internet is also a great resource when seeking information about anger management related services, such as an anger management course. It is imperative to explore all possible avenues of support when seeking anger management help.