The Secret to Developing Self Esteem And a Winning Personality

Here’s a little nugget of information that you may not already be aware of: Success comes with a great sense of self esteem. Self esteem is crucial for any measure of success, and it would be quite difficult for you to achieve success without a healthy measure of self esteem. The most successful people in the world are the kind of people who have an extremely high sense of self worth, and you would be hard pressed to find someone who is successful but has a rotten view about himself and his abilities. This article will show you some of the ways you can develop your self esteem and a winning personality that will prepare you in your bid to attract success in your life.

The most important thing that you need to start off with is to learn to love yourself. It may be easier said than done, but seeking approval from yourself and loving yourself goes a long way in breeding a healthy self esteem. You may want to seek approval from others, especially those who you may think to be important authority figures in your life, but if you don’t approve of yourself and your abilities then it won’t matter what others think. In fact, once you accept yourself for the person that you are, it wouldn’t quite matter what others may think of you. So think positive and start loving yourself.

However, before you can learn to seek approval from within, you need to have a clear and concise view of what you want and need out of life. You need to have a clear sense of direction, you need to determine what YOU want out of life. You shouldn’t be wishy-washy in your own desires simply because others have commented that you shouldn’t do this, you shouldn’t do that, etc. Do not let others dictate what you should dream about. If you want to seek approval from yourself you will need to know what you want and go after it, no matter what others might say. Only then will you be able to accept yourself for who you are, because you’re living your own dream instead of another person’s.

If things go wrong, do not be quick to blame yourself. If you face an obstacle or even failure in your attempts at success, do not throw in the towel and start crying. Take a step back, take a breather, and think about where you might have gone wrong. Think about what could have been done better, and then once you’ve figured it out, dust yourself off and try again.

Never underestimate your own abilities. It is easy for you to blame yourself and your abilities once things go wrong. You might think that you’re not talented enough, you don’t have the ability to succeed, you are simply incapable of success… if this has been your mental attitude, then you need to change it, and change it NOW. Take responsibility for your actions, and remember that you are accountable for the outcome of any decision that you make. Once you learn to be responsible, only then will you be able to acknowledge the fact that you are the one who has the ability to shape your own destiny. Only then will you have the ability to conquer the obstacles standing in your way and achieve the success you have long craved.

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7 Ways For Developing Self-Esteem

Developing self-esteem is hard work and changes don’t happen overnight. People with low self-esteem don’t feel good about themselves, they are not happy with their life the way it is. But you can change and give a different direction to your life right now. You just have to decide to do that. Just think about your life for a moment.

How many times in your life have you had a thought that the “problem” you faced was impossible to solve, but you took care of it?

How many times did you think that there was no way to get that job and now you even have a better one?

How many times did you feel too shy to go to talk to that beautiful Lady on a party and now you have 2 gorgeous children and can’t wait to attend their baseball game on the weekend with your wonderful wife who happened to be the same Lady?

We are all human beings with our frustrations, challenges and situations to take care of. Without those we would not call our existence LIFE.

Developing healthy self-esteem is crucial to feel good about yourself.

What’s important is that you have to accept and understand the reality which is to have ups and downs emotionally in life and by overcoming the obstacles will provide you with that amazing feeling that you have accomplished something. It does not matter what happens to you the point is your approach, your behavior toward the experience. You can look every single situation as an opportunity to prosper.

The point of life is not eliminating the challenges, but embracing them and to grow with them.

In the following you can find 7 ways to develop your self-esteem and boost your confidence to live a happy, prosperous life:

1. MAKE DECISION TO BE SUCCESSFUL. If you don’t take this step you can’t go any further. If you don’t want to change there is no way to change.

2. CREATE A PLAN. Set a goal what you would like to accomplish and go for it. Do something every day to get closer to your final achievement. It does not matter how small it is follow through your plan and do it. Be flexible though. There are times you have to accommodate your plan to the circumstances. But you have to do something every day to achieve success.

3. FOCUS. Every single fiber of your body and brain has to focus on the subject no matter what you do. Concentration is an indispensable part of high self-esteem.

4. PERSISTENCE. Many people can start something, but really few would finish it. So finish it. And never, ever give up.

5. SMILE probably has the strongest effect on people. Practice often.

6. POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS can “re-wire” your brain and get you back on track when you feel tired or lost.

7. POSITIVE THINKING. Put the idea into your mind that no matter what kind of situations you will face, what sort of obstacles will come up you can take care of them. You are a genius who will solve the problem and turn it into an amazing opportunity.

We all try new things and make mistakes. This is life, Ladies and Gentlemen.

The more you fail the sharper your “mental tools” going to be next time to overcome similar challenges.

And remember when you make a mistake YOU DO NOT FAIL; you just LEARN HOW NOT TO DO IT.

Zoltan Roth is a native Hungarian teacher who resides in the United States. His passion is to help people around the globe to discover their enormous mental potential to create a happy, peaceful life we all deserve. For more information please visit his website at www.selfesteem2go.com


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Leadership Skills Program – Developing Effective Leadership

Most leaders who want to develop their skills attend some form of a leadership skills program or leadership training. But regardless of this training, you should understand that a leader must possess certain characteristics that set him apart from the others.

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Number one: A leader must know how to communicate effectively, that is, to exchange information in an effective and accurate manner. Getting and giving information is probably the number one competency required of leaders. If you cannot communicate effectively, then no other leadership skill will compensate for this lack. Number two: A leader must understand the needs, characteristics, and resources of the group for which he leads. In a group, everyone must be accepted and their individual differences valued. This is because these differences contribute to an environment calculated to encourage growth. A leader, as well as his members, must informally assess others’ characteristics and needs so that they can help each other grow and prosper.

Number three: A leader must set the example. A leader cannot tell his members to do something in particular if he himself does not do it. Members of the group will find it difficult to trust or to respect a leader who does not exhibit the characteristics that he expects of his group members. Remember that no matter how good a line you talk, if you don’t match it with your behavior, then you will enjoy no respect and find it increasingly difficult to get the group to work with you. Number four: A leader must be a problem-solver. He analyzes situations, makes plans, and implements steps to solve problems together with his members.

Number five: A leader must inspire and motivate. He must push his members into doing well and striving for excellence.

Leaders are not born, they’re made. This is why a good leadership skills program may prove valuable.

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Taking on the “battle” of Strategic Marketing: 6 Steps to Developing a Strategic Marketing Plan That Works!


Taking on the “Battle” of Strategic Marketing: 6 Steps to developing a Strategic Marketing Plan that works!

Marla Cooper is a Senior Associate and Strategic Marketing professional at Bloom Consulting, Inc., specialists in nonprofit fundraising, strategic planning, marketing and leadership development.

Why is it that I’m often met with those glazed stares when I’m brought in as a Strategic Marketing Consultant and I ask to see an organization’s “Communications Plan”. This should be as basic to any organization as an Operating Budget and yet it seldom exists as a comprehensive, integrated and well thought out document. Why is this so often neglected by organizations when it is clearly so key to success in today’s competitive and dynamic marketplace? Possibly because there are many misconceptions about what a Strategic Marketing Plan is and what is should do.

Before exploring the steps to developing a Strategic Marketing Plan, let’s first determine exactly what it means. The term “strategy” is rooted in military tradition. According to Webster’s Dictionary, a “strategy” is defined as “the science and art of military command exercised to meet the enemy in combat under advantageous conditions”. The Random House Dictionary of the English Language defines the same term as “the science or art of combining and employing the means of war in planning and directing large military movements and operations.” “Marketing” is then defined by Webster’s as “the act of selling or purchasing in a market”, while Random House explains marketing as “the act of buying or selling in a market.”

Therefore, if you combine both of these terms to explain “Strategic Marketing” you arrive at “waging war to sell in the market”. It’s no wonder we have come to describe our marketing activities as “Campaigns” and engage in “Guerilla Marketing”!

I like to take a more peaceful approach to Strategic Marketing which can be viewed more as the art of influencing people. In the world of Non-Profit Organizations, this “influence” takes the form of convincing potential donors and members to identify with your organization enough and align themselves with your mission to the extent that they will “buy in” by giving money and/or paying for membership. If you are thinking, “we have a marketing program that does this”, I would encourage you to ask these questions:

1. Is your organization currently raising the funds it needs?

2. If no, are those you solicit capable to providing these funds?

3. If yes, why isn’t your organization reaching its goals?

The answers to these questions can be twofold. If your organization is aware of what potential donors and/or members want but you’re not able to currently offer it, your organization must enhance your offerings to address this need.

If your organization isn’t quite sure what potential donors and/or members want, or you’re just not sure why your message isn’t compelling enough to get results, the solution is to know your audience better.

To both of these points, a Strategic Marketing Study and Plan is the way to address the situation. It may seem ominous if you’re not a Marketing Professional, but by following a series of disciplined of steps, your organization can develop a Strategic Marketing Road Map that can get you where you need to go.

Step #1: Form a Marketing Committee

Your organization most likely has some type of marketing or communications committee. Keep this committee small since the work and direction generated by this group needs to be clear, concise and on target. Marketing by consensus, while necessary at times, can provide for weak and confusing messages in your advertising and marketing activities that speak to internal perceptions instead of real needs in the marketplace.

Step #2: Set the Goals of your Committee

Keep this to a short list with a timeline to expand your goals based on how the marketing is going. Taking on too much at once can derail the entire process. A singular focus and mission to start with can give your committee cohesiveness and some early successes that will provide the momentum to go forward.

Step #3: Do your research

The committee may think they know what current and potential donors and/or members feel about your organization and what motivates them. However, organization boards and leadership can become very insular without even realizing it. It is of the utmost importance to stay current and aware of what those less involved and connected to your organization perceive about your organization and what they value about their mission. The only true way to know this is to ask. This doesn’t need to be a long and involved or expensive process. It can be as simple as 5 committee members contacting 5 to 10 individuals each and asking a series of well thought out questions. It is important that those interviewed represent a cross section of all those that will be targeted by any marketing efforts. This step is very important since all that follows will be based on what is learned during this process. Take it seriously.

In addition, with the internet we have access to an abundance of good information and research done by others. Committee members need to take on the responsibility of researching information and data available regarding your competitors, your market, your industry, your target audience and current trends. Much can be learned from simply borrowing from others who have often spent a great deal of time and money to learn just want you want to know. Become adept at on-line research and you’ll be surprised at what’s out there if you just look!

Step #4: Establish your Mission and Vision

If your organization has a Mission and Vision Statement it needs to be carefully reevaluated based on your learning from the research. If your organization does not currently have an approved Mission or Vision Statement go no further until this step is completed. Everything that your organization does or is should be reflected in these statements. It should guide every activity and every communication and be used in evaluating both professional staff and volunteers be they board members or not.

A Vision Statement inspires by articulating the future of an organization. A Mission Statement controls and clarifies what an organization does right now. It’s important that neither of these be an “Alphabet Soup” of all the elements that all the key players think are important for an organization to be. It needs to be practical and reflect reality. Clear and concise Mission and Vision Statements should contain at most 3 to 5 elements that live within the organization and be the standard by which all initiatives and standards are evaluated. If it is too broad it will be meaningless and if it is too narrow it will not inspire.

Step #5: Develop your Strategic Marketing Plan

Based on the above steps, your committee should now have a clear understanding and direction and can develop a Strategic Marketing Plan that details the following:

Ø Who is your target audience: what population or individuals provide the best chance for your organization to reach its goals?

Ø What is your message: based on your Mission/Vision statement what do you want to communicate the target audience? What is it about you that is unique and compelling and allows you to deliver on your mission?

Ø How to communicate your message: based on your target audience what is the best way to reach them?

Step #6: Execute your Strategic Marketing Plan

Here are some helpful hints that will enhance your Marketing Plan and ensure it has the best chance of succeeding.

Ø Give specific responsibilities to committee members, staff and volunteers for specific elements of the Plan. Create ownership of the Plan among individuals so it’s not the “Committee’s Plan” but individuals have a stake in it as well.

Ø Track your results. Every marketing or programming initiative or effort undertaken as a result of this plan should be tracked to know what is working and what is not.

Ø Make sure your organization can deliver on your message. If you are highlighting new programs or features of your organization in your marketing, be absolutely certain all aspects are ready and available before going with the communications. Remember, you never get a second chance to make a first impression! If someone is attracted to your organization because of something they saw or read and come to find out it’s not as they thought, you’ve lost a donor or member and will have an exceedingly difficult time getting them to reconsider.

Ø Build on your strengths and minimize your weaknesses. Make sure all marketing activities highlight what your organization does best and excels at.

Be bold and provide leadership. In almost all cases, some form of marketing is better than none. Get your organization out there and make sure it has the exposure it needs. In closing, I’ll pay homage to the military origins of my profession as a Strategic Marketing Professional by urging you to “Get out there and market them before they market you!”

Contact Marla Cooper, Bloom Consulting, Inc. (610) 348-4035 or marlacooper@bloomconsultinginc.com

Having risen through the ranks in the for-profit, corporate world for nearly 20 years, Marla has honed her skills as a marketing professional in a competitive, dynamic and demanding environment. While working at top advertising agencies early in her career, she learned to use communications to sell ideas, services and products of all kinds. With a mid-career move to the “client side,” Marla developed an expertise in conducting and interpreting market research and trends to build awareness, impact perceptions and create demand. At Bloom Consulting, she puts her experience to work for nonprofit clients, developing marketing and communications strategies that produce immediate and quantifiable results.

Developing Future Leaders- It’s Imperative Not to Wait!

Why is it important to develop future leaders within your company?  Continuity of company culture, labor shortages, and an unexpected death of a senior manager are just a few important reasons.

In his book, Built to Last, Jim Collins describes the very successful succession planning process that GE’s CEO, Reginald Jones, took to find a new CEO.  The process involved 96 candidates over seven years before Jones narrowed the candidates down to a single successor: Jack Welsh.

GE’s commitment to the succession process not only identified Jack Welsh, but all of his predecessors as well.  These leaders were visionaries and change agents – an important, ongoing part of GE’s culture.

While you may not currently be in need of a successor, have you at least identified some potential candidates?  Who within your organization has the potential to succeed you?  And how long will it take before they are prepared to take your seat?

Challenges for Mid-Market Companies

Unlike GE, mid-market companies generally don’t have 96 candidates in the succession planning process queue, and a seven year process may be overkill.  At the same time, many mid-market companies often wait until it is too late to successfully identify and develop their next CEO.  Potential candidates may leave their current company to grow with another company before they are formally identified for succession opportunities.  The very worst scenario involves a candidate leaving for a competitor who promises them increased responsibilities and leadership development opportunities that their current company failed to provide.

Another challenge for mid-market companies is their lack of a structured management training program for current and future leaders as found in many Fortune 500 companies.

Redefining Succession Planning for Mid-Market Companies

The succession planning process should start with you, your organization’s leader, and your talent management or human resources department.  Work with this department to create a list of critical success factors and specific job requirements.  Identify all must-have experience and skill sets as well as the nice-to-haves.  If you don’t have people internally with these skills set, bring in a consultant to assist in the succession planning process.

Once the job profile is complete, compare it to your candidates.  Identify the top candidates and determine what leadership development skills they will require.  Some of your leadership development process can be addressed through internal resources, while some may require external resources.

When your leadership development plan is finished, you should not wait to execute your plan as waiting can greatly impact your company’s future! The story below tells why it is imperative that you not wait to begin developing your future leader.

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I have had the unfortunate experience of working with a company whose leader did not act with a sense of urgency when it came to leadership development and he died unexpectedly. The company was left to a family member who wasn’t prepared to take control and lead the company.  As a result, this past year has been a very difficult time for the new leader as well as for the employees.

Grooming future leaders is one of the most critical tasks for an organization’s leader.  Without well-prepared future leaders, there is no future for the company.  A good leadership development process will take time and commitment from you, and must be a high priority.  Therefore, don’t let the company that you have spent so many years building, stagnate or fall apart because you didn’t properly prepare new leadership to run it for many years into the future.  

Beth Armknecht Miller, of Atlanta, Georgia, is Founder and President of Executive Velocity, a leadership development coaching firm accelerating the leadership success of CEOs and business leaders from emerging to midsize companies. A seasoned project management leader, executive-level consultant in sales, marketing and strategic planning, and a successful consulting firm co-founder, Ms. Miller is a trusted expert to many. She can be reached at beth.miller@executive-velocity.com