You Can be Great If You Really Want To

One’s success is never measured against that of others but is usually a matter of oneself and his potential. If at all you do exploit your full potential, then you are already successful in your own way, in spite of the standard that society may expect you to uphold in order to be considered successful. The real purpose of our lives is to give out the best from within ourselves, rather than to reach a certain destination.

To bring out one’s absolute best should never therefore be mistaken for being the best. As pointed out, success isn’t a matter of destination but is a life long journey. The effort put in utilizing your talents to the maximum is what is important, as compared with the by-products obtained as a result.

Therefore strive to always be yourself, be authentic and you should never seek to impress. Let your unique talents define and give you a specific feeling of purpose and appreciation. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter. Always view yourself with aplomb.

If you respect yourself you will then not harm your body or character by indulging in drugs or hanging out with bad company. You should learn to take good care of yourself and always seek to make the right choices.

The reason why you should always feel self confident is because you are special in your own right. Whenever you disrespect yourself, others tend to also disrespect you too. Try exploiting your God given gifts so as to boost your self esteem and thus be able to bring out the jewel in you.

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Confidence isn’t just for the good times. In fact, the mark of a truly confident person is that they maintain their confidence when times are bad. People who are only confident when things are going well for them have a fragile confidence that you can’t really call true confidence.

So how do truly confident people maintain their self-esteem when things get rough? Well, part of confidence is knowing that you can deal with whatever situation comes your way. In other words, you have the ability to deal with problems. Let’s face it, problems are a part of life. It’s even been said, if you’re not having problems, you’re probably dead.

So it makes sense that we should learn to deal with problems as best we can. But if dealing with problems is a sign of confidence, conversely having confidence can help us deal with problems. It’s kind of a self-powering loop. The better you get at solving problems, the more you confident you feel. The more confident you feel, the better your attitude, and therefore it will be more likely that you will be able to solve problems.

So how do we get better at solving problems? We get practice! We deal with every single small problem we can find and then build our way up to larger and larger problems.

The key to problem solving is keep a solution focus. Don’t get too hung up on the problem. You can spend all day thinking about the problem and make yourself feel worse and worse. Instead focus on the solution. Have faith that you can find a solution.

First of all, define the problem. Write it down on paper if you need to. Then start trying to come up with solutions. Write as many as you can. At least 20. Yes 20! The more the better. Often people find that the 20th is the best solution. Once you have written down as many solutions as you can, pick the best three or four. Apply the solution to your life. If it works, great, you just solved a problem! If it doesn’t try the second, third or fourth options. Repeat until this works.

If you can, also ask the help of someone who has had a similar problem before. Why reinvent the wheel? If they already have found a solution, you can borrow theirs’ and avoid the time taken to discover it yourself.

Once you get good at problem solving, you will feel more and more confident.

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Can anybody really spend a day without getting worried about some problem that arose suddenly? No one will give a positive answer. Problems, both major and minor surround us from everywhere cutting the retreat and putting against the wall of hopelessness. The only possible solution in that case is to find the solution and become free. Some of the problems need no identification to be solved; they have already become a part of the daily routine. But there is a category of problems that put us, humans, under constant pressure.

The first desire after having been trapped by a problem is to find the solutions. Vulnerable society has developed several methods to get out of such a situation. One of the oldest techniques is to divide the writing space into “plus” and “minus” columns in order to assess every point of the situation as negative or positive. The result will appear much unexpected. It never occurs so that a person finds the situation completely negative or 100% positive. There is always some positivism in any situation that seems hopeless. The main goal of the technique is to develop the overall attitude towards the problem and find the way to react to it. There is of course a more serious method that will take more time and effort. You may take two separate sheets of paper and title them as “advantages” and “disadvantages” and write everything down carefully thinking over, without omissions, additions, exaggerations. Make your list numbered and compare the points with each other. Define the priority for all of them.

The goal is to pick out a number of behavior modes and then develop a strategy that one should follow in a situation of such a difficulty. Treat the whole experiment as a nice joke that is supposed to make your life easier. If you feel uncomfortable behaving one way or another, this is not your style and you should change it. Try to imagine all the possible situations and your possible reactions to one or the other. Make sure you are not over reacting and you are absolutely objective towards yourself and the problem, otherwise this method will turn into a complete failure.

What happens if there is something you can not apply any of your favorite modes to? There is no need to be down and feel the pain of failure for the rest of your life. Be sure to alter and be flexible to the circumstances and you will act naturally and deserve respect you are worth.