10 Mar

3 Unbeatable Tips For Improving Self Esteem Quickly And Effectively

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Self esteem plays an important part in a person’s life. A positive level of self esteem enables a person to do practically anything they set out for themselves. It is also imperative in order for a person to live their lives to the fullest. People with high self esteem tend to enjoy life more than those who have low self esteem. However, you may be surprised to find out that a majority of the world’s population have issues with self esteem. Even the high profile celebrities you may have read about in the newspapers are susceptible to self esteem issues.

This article aims to enlighten readers on 3 ways of how a person can improve self esteem quickly and effectively.

The first thing you should know is that negative energy is not conducive for a positive level of self esteem. Rid yourself of all negative thoughts, and fill your mind with happy ones, about yourself and your past successes. Doing this will help you overcome your insecurities and any thoughts of shortcomings you may have about yourself, which can affect your self esteem considerably.

Also, keep your mind active by doing both physical and mental exercises. The old saying, “An idle mind is the devil’s workshop” may seem cliché, but nothing is ever truer. A mind that is stagnant for a considerable amount of time is susceptible to negative influence and thoughts. If your mind is kept busy and active, you would have no room for negative or even self destructive thoughts. An active lifestyle will go a long way in keeping your mind active and fresh, and in turn boost your self esteem in the long run.

When setting goals for yourself, do not have too lofty an ambition, because the higher you set your goals, the more devastating your disappointment if you were to fail. Set small, achievable goals leading up to your one big goal at the end of your achievement horizon. Treat them as milestones of a journey towards your ultimate destination. Each accomplished milestone will serve as a confidence booster as you work towards your ultimate goal.

Do not be disheartened by mistakes or failures. Whenever you stumble in your journey toward success, treat your setbacks as learning experience. Accept the mistakes made as a fact of life. Always adhere to the following: Failure is only preparation for eventual success. You cannot be afraid of making mistakes, because those who do not make mistakes are often those who do not take action to begin with. Take each mistake in stride and you will make great strides in improving your self esteem.

So if you have ever experienced self esteem issues, you might like to give the 3 abovementioned tips a try. Remember, self esteem plays a large part in how we live our lives, and if we are to succeed and get ahead in our life and our endeavors, we need to ensure that we have a positive, clear mindset. And the way to achieve this is to improve our self esteem.

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08 Mar

Improving Self Esteem – How We Define Ourselves?

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Part of self esteem stems from how we describe and define ourselves. When our self-esteem is low, we might be constantly negative about our performance, abilities, and worth. We might have frequent thoughts like: “I’m fat.” “I can’t do that.” “They don’t like me.” “I messed up again. I always mess up.” “I shouldn’t have done or said that.” It is difficult to stop these thoughts, but it can be done with awareness and practice.

The first step is to become aware of these thoughts. If you keep a notebook handy and write down your negative thoughts for a couple of days it can give you an idea as to the nature of how you criticize and undervalue yourself. You can then sit down and go over the criticisms one by one and address them. For instance, yes, it may be true that you are overweight, but surely there are several nice things you can say about your appearance. And you may have reason to be proud of the efforts you are making for your health. Cross out the negative comment and write these positive things down. Many of your criticisms of yourself you will find are not true. No one always messes up, and almost anything in life you can learn to do.

Trying your best, no matter what the outcome, is worth respecting in yourself, whether that is what you do in a relationship, trying to lose weight, trying to do a good job, or attempting to do something new. Give yourself credit for doing your best. And thoughts such as, “They don’t like me,” are made up. You don’t know they don’t like you, and often it doesn’t even matter if they don’t because there are people who do like and love you. Now that you have replaced some of your habitual criticisms of yourself with more truthful and positive statements, keep your notes handy for a while, and when you catch yourself criticizing, replace it with your new positive statements of yourself.

Here is another thing you can do. Write down ten of your best qualities and memorize them. You might be for example: honest, kind, very intelligent, a hard worker, generous, a good parent, an A student, religiously faithful, a sincere friend, and diligent. Remind yourself of these qualities morning, noon, and night until they sink in, and add to the list. Let this become the core of your new sense of identity.

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07 Mar

Practical Steps to Enchantment: Improving Your Self Esteem

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Often in our society, we are bombarded with the lives of celebrities. We can end up feeling that if we are not part of the rich and famous, our lives are insignificant. Our society also sends a message of competition and achievement. We watch sports, we always hear about profit and the bottom line being the dollar, we see large companies competing and constantly buying each other out.

The result often is that we are taught to see how well we are doing, in terms of how pretty we are, how bright we are, what kind of house we have, how well we do in sports, what rewards we receive. However, in reality, these are external measures. Each of us needs to develop a sense of self-worth, a capacity for positive self-regard that comes from within.

Here is an example: Sara was divorced and felt in many ways that she had shortchanged her two daughters, in the sense that they lived on very little money. She could shower few luxuries on them. At times, in her therapy, she talked to me about feeling that she was not much good at anything. Her husband had been abusive both physically and mentally, and had put her down almost constantly. Although she no longer lived with him, inside of herself she still carried feelings of worthlessness.

One day I asked her to review some of the best moments in her childhood. She said, “I always loved when Uncle Sam used to come over, and we all sang songs.” I asked her if she did anything like that now, with her girls. She said that they often sang together in the car. In fact, she had taught them many of the songs that Uncle Sam had taught her. I asked her if she realized that she was offering her girls some of the wonderful family memories that were unique to her as a child. She said she hadn’t thought about it, but it was certainly true. During months of therapy, we worked again and again in recognizing many valuable aspects of herself. Needless to say, her self-esteem began to improve. Sara is an example for all of us, in the sense that each person has to document his or her own positive talents and strengths.

We have to learn to pat ourselves on the back. To help you, I suggest a self-pride list. During the coming week, write down at least one item a day that you can take pride in having handled well. For example, I was polite and kind to several people in the supermarket checkout line, even though I was tired. Or, I used my head, rather than my fist, and really shared with my son my concerns over his getting another traffic ticket.

At the end of the week, read over your self-pride list, giving yourself a mental hug, or the high five sign. This is the beginning of giving yourself more recognition, which will in time lead to an improved sense of self worth. It is only with this improved sense of self-esteem that you can have the confidence to make sure that your life is filled with enchantment.

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05 Mar

Tips To Improve Confidence By Improving Self Esteem

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Not many people take the time to actually think about the real meaning of self esteem even though they may think they know about it. It relates to specific parts of your personality and the way you project those parts creating your identity. It isn’t a alternative phrase for confidence despite what many people think. Attitudes make up the social context of your personality and to leave your mark on the world around you and be yourself require it.

The success of an individual often depends greatly on how they and others see them – their public persona. Those with high self esteem are often more motivated to achieve their goals and often go about it with a strong will. Often other individuals will be envious because it results in increased confidence.

If you find you are lacking contentment, satisfaction or energy in your life then this often means you are suffering from a low level of self esteem. Individuals often feel that they can’t succeed in life and have difficulty functioning as an independent individual. As a result of this mindset it can sometimes lead to depression and anxiety.

Many people in today’s world view mistakes as a shameful event rather than as a learning experience. You can build up your confidence if you regard your mistakes as a learning experience resulting in you becoming a more mature individual. To decide if your life is on the right path, or if you need to change course, is a consequence of analysing your mistakes. Consider your mistakes as a lesson that can teach you more about yourself rather than as an error.

To increase your levels you need to give yourself a purpose and to do this you should set goals to reach. Each goal should be something that motivates you and be something you have long wanted to accomplish. Once you reach your goals you will have a sense of accomplishment and this will help increase your self esteem.

In line with setting goals you should give yourself rewards when you achieve your goals. This way you can not only have personal satisfaction of achieving a goal, but you will also have something you can enjoy.

The fastest way to destroy your self esteem is through negative behavior or language. Always try to speak in positive language and use positive behavior. Show this positive attitude to the World even if you don’t feel it on the inside. In a real sense we are defined by our behaiour not our fears. If you act as though you believe in yourself your it will increase as a consequence.

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03 Mar

Improving Your Self Esteem Add Positive Affirmations = Success

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First it is important to understand the exact meaning of ‘Self-Esteem’. The Oxford English Dictionary definition is:

“One’s good opinion of one-self.”

Many people, and the psychology profession wouldn’t be able to survive without them, use the process of improving SELF-ESTEEM as an important step to the development of feeling good about one-self again.

This pathway back to a ‘good sense of worth’ may not be achieved with improving your self esteem alone, but we can assure you that you will have been elevated sufficiently to see what’s required next.

Positive affirmations are words that offer power to the subconscious mind … please read on.

We all have moments each year, each month, each week, each day and each hour where we may have sensed a period of sadness ensuing. It could have been a verbal attack on our character, it could have been a series of bad events. Whatever happens to you may never happen to anyone else; these routes to the doldrums are very personal.

Negativity is a sore point for any individual, so we need to develop a process of rising through these periods of confusion, and these are best defeated with us in a stronger frame of mind.

Building self esteem is not just about thinking good of yourself, it’s about not thinking bad for no reason!

Notice the small differences as they happen. Persevere and don’t expect everything at once. Beating low self esteem is a wonderful thing, and it’s much easier than you’d imagine.

“The way you overcome shyness is to become so wrapped up in something that you forget to be afraid.” (Lady Bird Johnson).

Assume in this illustration that your ‘soul’ or your ‘personality’ is the book.

(Positive affirmations are words that offer power to the subconscious mind … please read on.)

THE BLUE BOOK

This particular book was blue with a gold embossed title. Within the first few pages I noticed its reprint date in 1905. Without telling you the name of the book, would you know from the description so far what book it was? No, I don’t suppose you would.

In 1905 it was a new book, printed and bound to the highest quality. Although translated into a hundred languages the new owner found delight in having bought it.

The book was full of information and although the owner was only aged 10 he began to read from page 1. It wasn’t long before he put his own stamp on the book by writing his name on the inside front cover. He was proud to own it and was happy for everyone to know that too.

It wasn’t a book he read straight through, for it took him 5 years to finish it; but he recalls the journey was well worth the wait. It became a proud possession and moved from shelf to shelf in his bedroom.

His parents were having a clear out and decided to collect some old items and send them to a local jumble sale. It was evident that the blue book was popular, it was soiled, damaged by various accidents, its pages were folded, creased and several were scribbled on while the owner was still young. The parents asked if they could include this in their collection for the jumble sale as it didn’t look too healthy.

It may not have been impressive to look at, but the content was excellent. The value to the owner had not decreased from day one. So, NO the parents could not take it.

The owner grew older and found himself a wife and now engrossed in his new life mislaid the book at his parent’s home. It wasn’t long before his parents had another house clear out and this time the book went to the jumble sale.

During that day at the jumble sale many people picked up the book with almost everyone considered it worthy to buy. It was an old woman who bought the book for a few pence. She referred to the book as revisiting an old friend. Over the next 15 years she read it through about five times. Although the book may not have been in pristine condition the content was still valuable.

The old woman passed away and her belongings taken to a second-hand shop. The blue book was purchased once again for a few pence by a mother who bought it specifically for her own children. Both children read it on several occasions and one kept it in his book collection for 40 years.

This current owner found his house on fire and although many expensive items were destroyed his book collection had been saved; although now the cover of the blue book was dirtier than ever. As it happens with time, the blue book changed hands several more times; one of which had spent time to meticulously clean the book. As I write this recollection the book is 100 years old, a little tatty around the edges but still of value because of the content.

Doesn’t this seem similar to our life and how we sometimes have to drag ourselves off the floor and dust ourselves down?

Many times in our lives, we get dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless.

But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or creased, you are still priceless to this life.

By the way the blue book is entitled ‘The Bible’.

Positive affirmations are words that offer power to the subconscious mind … to read more please visit this site: http://www.GlobalTop5.com/affirmations.html

Mr. A. Bolton

Senior Affirmations Advisor
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