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Raise Your Self-Esteem in 0 Minutes per Day

Yes, you read that correctly! 0 minutes per day! Zero!

Unless a miracle happens I don’t think it’s possible to suddenly change from low to high self-esteem overnight. Building up your self-esteem is about adopting a new way of thinking about yourself. The way you think about yourself right now is the result of all the thoughts and experiences that you’ve had throughout your whole life up to this point. Needless to say, adopting a new way of thinking about yourself can therefore not be done instantly.

But who said that building up a new self-esteem has to steal time from all the other things that you want to spend your time on? You can keep doing exactly the same activities as you do today and still continually work on your self-esteem.

I will share a few tools that you can use to raise your self-esteem while you’re sleeping, driving, exercising, cooking etc. All that is needed is a little preparation.

1. Make a self-esteem playlist. Collect all your favourite songs into one playlist and put it on your ipod/mp3-player/CD or similar. Search for songs with positive lyrics. Select songs that tell you that you are a wonderful person, you are unique, you are beautiful, you are strong and competent etc. Dismiss all your sad love songs that you listen to when you feel lonely or sad. If you want to you can also include songs without singing as long as the rhythm cheers you up and makes you feel great about yourself. Once your playlist is ready, listen to it as often as you can: when you’re out walking, on your way to work, when you get yourself ready in the morning … You don’t have to be standing motionless next to the music player while you’re listening. You can continue doing whatever you were planning to do anyway.

2. Record affirmations. Affirmations are the new positive thought that you want to be thinking about yourself. Write down a list of all the new thoughts that you want to fill your head with and then read them out load while you’re recording your voice. You can then listen to these affirmations whenever you like. You don’t even have to be awake while you’re listening! Turn on the affirmation recording as you’re about to fall asleep and listen to it all night all (or until the end of the recording). Even if you think you’re asleep, you’re brain will still be awake to notice the messages that it hears. By brainwashing yourself in this way you will eventually start to believe in the affirmations and they will become part of your natural way of thinking about yourself.

3. Act as if you already have high self-esteem. Let’s say that your plans for the next hour is to first go shopping at the supermarket and then pick your kids up from school. Ask yourself, in what manner would you do these things if you already had really high self-esteem? Maybe you would walk with a very straight confident posture, look people in the eyes when you speak to them, speak loudly and clearly etc. Now, for the next hour decide to do a little theatrical exercise and act in this high self-esteem manner. You’re not wasting any time because you are still doing the same things as you were planning to do anyway. You’re simply practicing being the new You that you want to become. Your brain will not know the difference between pretending and acting naturally, and it will believe that you have already a high self-esteem.

If you want more tips for how you can raise your self-esteem in a fun and effective way, please visit www.livmiyagawa.com

Liv Miyagawa – The Self-Esteem Coach

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Before you start reading, take a moment to listen to the sounds that surround you right now. It’s very unlikely that is it completely 100% quiet around you.

Before I encouraged you to do this, where you aware of which sounds that you were surrounded by? Most people spend most of their time NOT
being aware of this.

Yet, the sounds that we surround ourselves by affect us in very important ways. For example, listening to sad love songs will pull your mood down, and being exposed to lots of unpleasant distracting noise will make you tired and stressed. The effect that sounds have on people is well known in the business world. In fast food restaurants the music is usually uplifting but fast. They want their customers to come into the shop, buy lots of food but then eat it quickly and leave to give space for new customers. In more expensive shops, such as jewelry shops, the music is instead slow and calming to make the customers stay for long enough to make the decision to buy the expensive jewelry.

Although you cannot influence what music is going to be played at McDonalds, you CAN influence what kind of sounds you surround yourself with most of the time. Do you often listen to sad love song with lyrics something along the lines of “nobody loves me, I’m so sad and lonely and worthless”. What effect do you think that this has on your self-esteem?

Once you become aware of the impact that sounds have on you, you can actually start to use sounds to raise your self-esteem. Here are a few suggestions of how you can do this:

1. Skip all the sad love songs. Ok, sad love songs can be so beautiful, but they are not helping you to build your self-esteem.

2. Create a playlist with songs with positive lyrics. Look out for song that tell you that you are wonderful just as you are, that you look great, that you have lots of energy and power. If you can’t think of any such songs, try searching for such words on iTunes, YouTube and other place where you can search for songs.

2. Remove yourself from stressful music and noises. Avoid places where some construction work is going on or where the traffic is heavy. Avoid stressful songs. Stress is not good for your self-esteem. It is uncomfortable and your body will believe that there is something wrong with you. However, listening to fast songs can be a very clever thing to do when you actually want to be a bit stressed, for example when you’re trying to get some work done very quickly.

4. Invite silence. How often do you experience total silence? Probably not very often. The first step to self-esteem is self-awareness. It can be very difficult to hear your own thoughts if you are constantly bombarded with distraction. Turn off the TV and the radio! Listen to your own thoughts instead. You will automatically become more aware of yourself, and consequently it will be a lot easier to develop your self-esteem.

Visit www.livmiyagawa.com if you want more inspiration for how to develop a high self-esteem!

Liv Miyagawa – The Self-Esteem Coach

Before coming to self esteem for women, we must first define self esteem what is it exactly. Self esteem which comes from inside out in every body case. Almost all the women believes that they are not dependent on anyone else to make them happy or feel good, because they knows they are happy as they are. Women used to confident and aware of their strengths and abilities. Women like to shares things with others. All this does not mean that she give importance to her self. Women also used to aware of area needing work and growth. But it’s ok, she know she is not perfect or correct at every moments and offcorse she doesn’t have to be. She comes to understand we all have our strengths and weakness.

Self Esteem is very core identity point, it is essential to personal validation and our ability to experience joy. Once self esteemed is achieved it comes from inside out. Those women with low self esteemed does not feel good about herself because she has absorbed negative messages about women from the culture and or relationships.

The beauty and thinness among women in our society dooms every woman to eventual failure. There are various magazines, which makes women to focus on their efforts on their appearance. Women become obsessive about diets. They enjoy without salad dressing, jog in dressing, jog in ice storms, and swear they love it.

Self esteem for women make them do various beauty things. It is saying youth never last. Older women can strive for looking “good for her age” or worse yet. There are some experiences taken by women, mummies are well preserver, mummies are also dead. This kind of messages assault female self esteem.

Verbal abuse hurt women more than any physical act which lows there self esteem.

Poor self esteem in women causes to depression and anxiety, physical health suffers as well. Most of time women facing such problem don’t go regular checkups, exercise, or take personal days because they really don’t think they were worth the time.

Women relationships also get impacted. If their needs are not met by their partner because they feel like they don’t deserver to have them met. Women relationship with their children may suffer if they are unable to discipline effectively. Generally low self esteem passé from mother to daughter.

Women with low self esteem suppose to be self deprecating to minimize their accomplishments.