You Can be Great If You Really Want To

No matter which way you look at, people are attracted to people who have self esteem and confidence.  High self esteem and confidence can get you the job of your dreams, attract the perfect life partner, allow you to make friends easily and enable you to feel in control in just about every social situation that comes your way.  Life is a vast array of social interaction and whether you are grocery shopping or spending a night out with friends, your inner self confidence and self esteem has a great impact on how people will respond to you. 

It is only natural to become self-conscious in social situations.  You may worry about your hair, your clothes or start fidgeting with your mouth or nose out of nervous tension.  Some people blush as though a spotlight has just been shone on them while others take drastic measures to sink back in the shadows and become wallflowers.  The problem is that when you have low confidence around people, others notice it and can read it as you being painfully shy and uncomfortable and they will not want to cause further discomfort for you by engaging in conversation.  Either way, people will not be attracted to you professionally or otherwise, which will only add to your feelings that you are socially inept or not good enough.  It is quite a vicious circle.  In a day and age where social confidence and self esteem are perhaps the most versatile and meaningful ways to get ahead in life, welcome abundance and form valuable relationships with others, it is drastically important to learn how to boost your self confidence in social situations. 

 Keep in mind, that you are absolutely not alone.  It is estimated that four out of every five people feel insecure socially, avoid public speaking at all costs and constantly worry and fret about how they look and speak as well as worry how others see them.  That being said, being self conscious and having low self esteem is not a death sentence for your social life.  You can show the world just how amazing you are and let your light shine by learning a few tricks to boost self confidence.  If you practice and prepare your self before going out in this world every day, you will be a pro in no time.  Chances are you will come to the realization that putting on your self confident face is more important than any make-up or other primping you may spend your time doing. 

The first thing to do is take care of your self and dress with care.  Your self-image is reflected in the way you dress and carry yourself.  This may seem shallow at first, but given thought you will realize that when you look your best and dress nice you naturally feel more confident.  You walk with pride and spend less time trying to hide your self from others.  Instead of throwing on raggedy sweat pants and foregoing the shower before going to the grocery store, commit to waking up every day with the intention that you will take care of you first and foremost.  Throw on the jeans and decent shirt and you will be instantly surprised how differently people respond to you.  Don’t believe it!  Do your own experiment and dress in sloppy sweats that have a stain on the front, don’t wash your face or hair and go to the local coffee shop.  The next day, put on your jeans and t-shirt, comb your hair and see the difference in the way not only you feel, but in the way others react toward you. There is nothing wrong or self indulgent about taking care of yourself aesthetically and your first impression is perhaps most important. 

Make a conscious decision when you meet people to make eye contact with them and smile.  These TWO simple things can make a huge difference in your own confidence and in the manner with which people treat you.  It sends a warm, inviting message and shows that you are not fearful of others and most importantly, that you see your self as an equal.  Pay attention to all of your body language.  Are you slumping?  If so, stand tall and notice the difference in yourself. Do you walk around with your eyes cast down to the ground or keep your arms folded as if you are cold?  If so, physically opening yourself will invite people to you and when they respond, you will naturally respond with confidence and feel accepted.  Chances are the way you carry your self in life and the way YOU treat others is what gives them insight into your personality.  However, when you are shy or feeling uncomfortable your energy changes and you shrink from the outside in which only pushes people and positivity away from you.    When you change your body language consciously and people and situations begin to be more positive, your self confidence will be boosted ten fold.

Are you setting your self up for being insecure before you even leave the house?  Do you think things like “everyone will think I look ridiculous” or “I can’t wear these jeans, I will look like a fool!”  We all do it!  If you are creating a thought process that your encounters with others will be a disaster…they will!  Being nervous can be a healthy thing UNLESS you visualize the horrific outcome every time before it even happens.  These thoughts are creating a reality and the sad part is that your mind is just trying to do what it is told.  You will feel awful, look awful and stutter around like a complete fool because you are directing yourself to do so.  What if, you visualized your social situations whether personal or professional going perfectly well?  What if instead of deciding that no one will like you, that you will never be good enough, that the office party or dinner with friend will be a disaster, you imagined it all to be great?  What if you began seeing social interaction as an opportunity not to fail, but to unveil the real you that has been lying dormant and whom the world is just dying to meet?  Well, it’s definitely worth a try.  Chances are preparing your self by thinking negatively is not working or else you wouldn’t be reading this.  You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by getting a hold of your thoughts and making positive visualizations about your self and the way you will interact socially!  Try it!  You will be surprised how different you feel and how much more self confidence you have.

Social self confidence is really no different from being self confident when you are alone.  It definitely takes work for most of us.  Yet, the work is worth it because when you feel self confident and as you build your self esteem you will find that there is nothing in life you cant accomplish or set goals to achieve.  Self esteem is really about you feeling good about whom you are on the inside and out, and realizing that within yourself lays an endless well of opportunity and potential!  Follow these tips and in a short while you will change your own life.

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In the less developed countries of Asia, the question of leadership has been studied in the context of social change and the modernization of traditional societies. After world war II, when many of the less developed countries of  Asia emerged from colonial rule, the national leadership realized that political freedom without freedom from economic, social, and cultural backwardness was meaningless.

In all these countries the major obstacles to economic development and human growth were mass poverty, illiteracy, and disease. The breakthrough to modernity was conceived by the national leadership as the strategic path to economic and social freedom after the achievement of political independence.

In this perspective of social change and modernization, leaders were considered necessary for the smooth transition from the traditional to the modern society, and the smooth transition from the traditional to the modern society, and the role of local and nation national leaders was envisaged as the dissemination of new value institutions and structures that would embody this new set of value.

The approach adopted will be selective rather than exhaustive, concerned with trends rather than specific situations. It would be useful to keep in mind that, though India, is not a paradigm of Asia, the issues crucial to human development in India and the strategic role of the now leadership in responding to the new social and economic needs of the people are more or less similar in all the less developed countries of Asia. Like India, these countries of Asia have had an experience of colonial domination and have only recently attained political independence. Like India, these Asian countries are agrarian societies whose social satisfaction is rigidly segmented and marked by pervasive social and economic inequalities.

A striking feature of the underdeveloped countries of Asia is that they are hierarchical societies in which the patterns of social stratifications are characterized by social and economic inequalities which are no longer legitimized by the officially accepted system of values. In India, the relations between the social strata were organized according to the hierarchical values of the caste system which provided ideological legitimating for the traditional patters of social stratifications.

However, after Independence, the traditional societies of south Asia are publicly committed to the creation of egalitarian societies, or what in India, is called “a socialistic pattern of society”, in which there will be greater equalization of opportunity and a more equitable distribution of income, power, and privilege.

In India, as in the other less developed countries of Asia, only the leadership can be considered effective which is socially responsive to the dehumanizing situations maintained by the social, economic and political structures of society, and strives to create with the people the conditions for integral human growth.

Planned development in India tended to be the function of the administrative bureaucracy and little attention was paid to the need of securing people’s participation as patterns in their own development. Though the official rhetoric emphasized people’s participation in their social and economic growth, the local leadership was, as we have seen earlier, dominated by bureaucratic officials who told them what to do and how to do it. The primary task of the leader is, therefore, to manage an educational process of “conscientization” through which the people become aware of the structural factors responsible for the dehumanizing conditions of their life.

Finally, Like India, these countries are in various stages of the process of industrialization.

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