You Can be Great If You Really Want To

It is no mystery that scents, whether wonderfully aromatic or awfully fetid, affect our psyches, our emotions, our moods, our self-esteem, and our sexuality. Pleasant aromas can attract us to others we may not have otherwise been attracted to and to the contrary, poor smells (or lack of a pleasant smells) can repel us just the same. Now, why wouldn’t someone want to smell good and not only feel good about him or herself, but attract others to them as well? There is such a simple way to do this. A little finishing touch of perfume on the wrist or below the ear on your neck right, (or other places) before you leave the house is the way.

How many times do you find yourself spraying perfume on yourself before you go out? Why do you want to smell good? It’s because you know that appealing fragrances can make you feel good about yourself and can give you lifted self confidence and self-assurance. They can make you feel attractive and often give you the poise and belief in yourself to get out there and make things happen. The simple act of spraying on perfume, body spray or body mist can give you the extra confidence needed to go out and feel good on a date, do well at a job interview, or perform well during a presentation, for just a few examples. A simple spray can be so simple, yet so powerful.

What is it about a smell that can drive a person’s confidence level up so high or attract one person to another? Research has proved that the olfactory nerves of the nose are super sensitive towards a pheromone called alpha androstenal. Now, granted, this experiment was mostly done with pigs, but it was transferred to humans as well. One investigation revealed that men and women who wore surgical masks sprayed with alpha androstenal rated women in photographs as more attractive then did subjects in a control group who wore untreated masks. Continuing on this same path, in 1983, one major perfume manufacturer began to market a women’s perfume and a men’s aftershave containing alpha androstenal. They were quite successful in the selling of their product. What more needs to be said?

So, we have some empirical evidence that pleasant smells tend to attract humans to each other, and proven research is great, but did we really need that small tid bit of information to really know how perfumes can affect a person? Why not conduct your own experiment? The next time you go out, spray some perfume on yourself. Make sure not to douse yourself in it because too much of any good thing…well…isn’t such a good thing. However, spray sparingly after you’re dressed and ready to go out and go and have a great time! Observe how your confidence level is raised and how you feel about yourself while you’re out. Try to notice whether you’re receiving more attention or not. My guess is that there is no doubt you will feel great about yourself. Like buying a new shirt, dress, or even a great pair of shoes; perfumes have that same kind of affect! It just makes you feel good about yourself!

Don’t have any perfume handy? Try some good smelling lotion for the initial test. Although it won’t be as strong as will perfume, it’s only a test to prove to you what so many others already know. But you need to find out for yourself. After you have proven to yourself, that you not only felt more confident during your time out wearing a fragrance, but you found more people looking in your direction and possibly even talking to you, take the next step. Purchase your favorite , whether a floral, musky, woodsy, fruity, or sweet smell and be even MORE noticeable out there. Lotions may just not be enough to do the trick, but it’s a start if you are new to the world of fragrances. If you need to just prove to yourself how you will feel and behave differently when you smell good, take the test using the lotion and it will be an almost guarantee that you will want to try perfumes next. Any pleasant discount perfume and cologne will indeed make a difference in how you feel about yourself, how you hold your body, how your posture changes, how you approach and talk to others, and even how you walk. Self confidence and self esteem are the keys to almost any success, and with such a simple way to gain a bit more than you already have or need, why not spray a little mist onto your person and get out there and conquer the world!

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We need to be positive in our thinking and attitudes when trying to improve our own self esteem. For helping others we also need to use a positive approach, and help them see their self worth and value too.

If we ourselves feel our self esteem benefits from receiving encouragement and supportive treatment by others, then clearly we can help others by encouraging them and reassuring them that they are valued and respected by us.

Not everyone is brought up in an environment where it is normal to give complements or pats on the back. Not everyone is used to this. It does feel good though, to hear that you have done something well, or have dealt with something in the right way.

My husband and I have a deal that every Saturday morning we use all our endeavours to be loving and supportive, and not to disagree. It’s the week end, and after a week at work we are both tired and would like to relax, we don’t always want to do the household chores and maintenance jobs that are necessary. Somehow there is always so much to do on a Saturday, so Saturday mornings can be stressful.

The deal is that we agree with each other, and congratulate each other for every good idea or suggestion. This is good practice at being nice and supportive to each other when we are both feeling tired. And it always brings a smile to both of our faces, and a reason for a hug and some mutual nurturing.

It helps us remember that the chores and jobs are less important than our support for each other and the need to care for each other.

Part of the commitment within family life is to give mutual support and encouragement. Sometimes we forget. Sometimes our egos or our schedules just get in the way. Sometimes we can be unforgiving, critical and judgmental.

However it is within our family that we can provide most help and support, and within our family that we can most benefit from it too.

Isn’t it generally the case that when two people meet and fall in love, they smile at the whole world. When you are in love you want everyone else to be happy too. As relationships develop it can be hard to feel that euphoria with the world and our loved ones on an every day basis. Every day just creeps in and we act differently. We forget to smile at each other, and don’t feel like spreading warmth and joy like chocolate chips to everyone we meet.

It is time to stop and think. What are some of the principles of happiness, confidence and good self esteem?

- Making our health and well one of our priorities.

- Nurturing ourselves.

- Respecting ourselves, our bodies and our minds.

- Respecting others.

So if we start to see how much happier we can be in our family lives if we make the effort to remember to be kind, supportive, and generous with praise and affection, we can help each other, and help ourselves.

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Many strong, capable women suffer from low self-esteem, which sabotages their efforts to accomplish great things. However, it is possible to take charge of your life!

One of the major problems women face when confronting their feelings of low self-esteem is the opinion of other women. Rather than supporting each others efforts, women can be cruel to one another. Gossiping and backbiting are common among female family members, friends and colleagues. If you find yourself in a situation that drains your feelings of self-worth, take positive steps. Sometimes all you need to do is discuss the matter openly. Talk with the friend who always makes cruel remarks or the coworker who constantly makes negative comments about your work. Women who act like this often suffer from low self-esteem themselves; they use this behavior to compensate for what they believe are their shortcomings. And do not fall into the same trap!

When friends or co-workers discuss other women in a negative manner, do not become part of it. You can influence the behavior of others by being a good example, and setting a good example will also help you feel better about yourself.

Most women have issues surrounding their perceptions of their physical appearance. It seems that someone is always ready to make a negative remark about a womans physical appearance, regardless of how beautiful the woman might be. Even fashion models and actresses who have been given a societal stamp of approval for their appearance have misgivings and doubts about their bodies. Instead of looking at yourself in terms of negativity, change your attitude and concentrate on your positive attributes.

Do not dwell on the kinds of clothes you wish you could wear. Focus on styles and colors that flatter you instead. Self-confidence is one of the most attractive features of any woman, and it allows her to look her best to everyone she meets.

Too often, women believe that buying things will make them feel better. They will purchase expensive and extravagant clothing or accessories, hoping to improve how they feel about themselves. Designer clothing will not make up for the inadequacies you feel inside. After a shopping spree, you are more likely to feel guilty and let down feelings that only reduce your self-esteem even more.

You can become trapped in a vicious cycle: feeling bad about yourself, buying extravagant items, then feeling worse about yourself because of the bills. Rather than going to the mall, go to the library. Find the self-help section. A book may offer the perfect starting point for raising your self-esteem.

Stay positive and your life will take on a positive tone. Keep away from negative influences. Try to be around people who have a positive impact on your life. Your friends know you are a wonderful and unique person. It is time that you knew it too!