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Anger

The average person experiences 15 anger situations per day. You can choose to nurture the anger and make yourself sick or you can choose to fix what you can and accept what you cannot change.

Anger reveals information about people’s values and personal constructs of importance. What makes you angry? Is it reasonable and/or productive to get all upset over these things?

Expression of anger for men and women is often dictated/indicated by their particular culture. How do you express anger? Sarcasm? Aggression? Depression? Physical illness such as ulcers, indigestion, cancer…

Exercise, venting and time-out are often good strategies to dissipate the adrenaline, but are not effective for coping with anger. You still have to either fix/change what made you angry or change the way you feel about it by looking at the positive or just accepting it.

Coping with anger requires people to recognize what caused the anger and modify that stressor or perceptions about that stressor. Good communication, fair fighting and self-awareness are all important components for anger management.It is important for people to know their personal anger styles, triggers and most effective anger management skills.

Fear

There are six basic human fears: failure, rejection, the unknown, death, isolation and loss of control.

Most of the time when people experience anger, if they look deeper they can find that this situation caused them to feel one of the six basic fears.

The reason people experience this fear is often because of something they learned growing up. What messages did you get about success/failure? How were you taught to deal with the unknown? What messages were you given about being in control? Were you raised that you need to be liked by everyone?

Summary

Get a piece of paper. Draw four columns. In the first column, spend 20 minutes writing down all of the things that make you angry or irritated. Next to each anger trigger, write why that makes you angry. In the third column, identify where you were taught/who taught you that value. Now assess the trigger. If it is not something that is really worth getting upset over, place an X in the column. If it is something that is changeable, write how you will change it so you get less angry.

Now you have a plan for handling your anger triggers. Whenever a new trigger arises, add it to your chart. More suggestions can be found at Doctor-Is-In the sister site of the Counselor’s Community or Counselor Continuing Education and Self-Help Manuals .

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Self-esteem is a term generously used, and frankly, often misused in today’s society, so before we discuss how to improve self-esteem let us first take a minute to define it.

Wikipedia defines self-esteem as a “psychological term which reflects a person’s overall evaluation or appraisal of their own self worth.” 

This definition is very appropriate for this article as it specifically mentions that the “evaluation and appraisal” process is self administered.  What does that mean?  Quite simply it means that nobody but you can determine whether your self-esteem is high or low, and consequently only you can improve it.

Low self-esteem is often the result of feeling disconnected from the world in which we live—a feeling of being on the outside looking in, unable to connect with the people in our lives and hesitant to share in all the joys the world has to offer.  People with low self esteem sometimes feel as if they have nothing to offer, and while this is wholly untrue, thought patterns like these can become habitual and can have a serious impact on their ability to live both happily and productively.

3 Easy Ways to Improve Self-Esteem

Below are a few ideas to help improve self esteem and regain a connection to the world around you:

Be yourself.  To improve self-esteem, the first thing you should do is give yourself permission to be just who you are.  Don’t get caught up thinking you need to act or think in a certain way to be accepted.  Whether you believe it or not, you possess a uniqueness that is far too important to compromise.

Surround yourself with the people, and things, that bring you happiness.  Life is too short to waste on people or activities which bring you down and make you unhappy.  Try to surround yourself with people who share your zest for life and who love you for who you are, and avoid people who think the only way to happiness is through another’s misery.  Remember, you have nothing to prove to anyone.

Give Thanks.  During the rough times in our lives we are often quick to turn to friends and loved ones, even God, to help see us through.  However, when things are going well in our lives, how often do we take the time to offer up our thanks?  Understand that while your self-esteem is not dependent upon the perception of others, you are connected nonetheless by the relationships you foster.  To improve self esteem, take the time to say thank you to the people who make your life enjoyable and a bit easier to bear. 

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What businesses need to remember is that even though Six Sigma is theoretically foolproof, its eventual success depends on many other factors such as how it is deployed and the type of organizational culture.

The thing that complicates the matter even more is that it takes quite a long time to achieve the desired results. This is the main reason as to why businesses should conduct Six Sigma project appraisals on a regular basis.

Periodic appraisals help businesses to ensure that the project is right track and proceeds just as planned.

Understanding the Appraisal Process

The appraisal system adopted by Six Sigma is same as the process of evaluation adopted during the implementation stage of Six Sigma concepts and methodologies. That’s because, since Six Sigma aims at qualitative improvement, the appraisal process too involves a variety of quality checks of the business processes.

The appraisal process is pretty simple. It works on the basis of checklists and questionnaires, which makes it easier for the Six Sigma appraisers to evaluate the current condition of the process that is prevailing in the company. The appraisers then compare their findings with the standards that were defined before the implementation process. In addition, the Six Sigma appraisal process is quite similar to the quality control tools used by the ISO 9000 certified companies.

Nowadays, it has become pretty common to see Six Sigma organizations using the quality control devices defined by Malcolm Baldrige.

Tools and Techniques Used During Six Sigma Appraisals

During the appraisal process, the main tools that are used are the descriptive charts, which in layman’s terms are checklists used by professional Six Sigma appraisers. These charts are prepared by the appraisers at the beginning of the implementation process and are used for verifying the applicability of the ongoing Six Sigma quality improvement initiatives.

The thing to remember here is that a separate checklist is prepared for assessing the status of each individual business process or activity. For example, if the Six Sigma implementation is being carried out simultaneously in the production and finance department, a separate checklist will be prepared for each of these. Each of these checklists are quite effective because they are created as per the Standard Operating Procedure (SOP) that are determined during the initial stages of Six Sigma project implementations.

They help appraisers to determine whether or not the standard procedures are being followed. It also helps in understanding exactly how well the predetermined plans are being carried out by those associated with the implementation.

Inherent Limitations

Even though the Six Sigma appraisal process plays a vital role in determining the success of Six Sigma implementations, it has its limitations in that it can only be used for monitoring quality levels already existing in a business organization. That is to say that it does not contribute anything towards making further quality improvements in an organization, something that is possible only through Six Sigma implementations.

However, the limitations do not reduce the importance of Six Sigma appraisals because the appraisals do help in reducing risks associated with Six Sigma implementations. Without the appraisal process, it would be like riding a boat with a hole in it, for every organization that intends to improve quality and efficiency through Six Sigma implementations.