You Can be Great If You Really Want To

There is a surplus of information on how to eat right and how to get in shape. Yet rates of obesity keep on increasing.

Unfortunately, I believe the main culprit here is an inability to control lasting behavior changes. After all, it’s not knowing about diet and exercise, it’s about knowing how to implement diet and exercise day in and day out.

So here is how to conquer the psychological aspect of weight loss:

1. Define goals with crystal clarity: If you have amorphous goals, your behavior is more likely to be amorphous as well. The more defined your goals are, the faster you will reach them. So make sure you have very clear and defined goals so that you don’t stray from your path.

2. Measure your progress: You don’t have to have a complex system here. Simple waist measurements will suffice here. Just make sure you track something reliable that way you can assess whether or not your program is working and you can stay motivated.

3. Make your goal very big: Big thinking leads to big action. A small goal will lead to small motivation, but a big goal will lead to massive motivation. So dream, just like you used to when you were a child. Having a big goal is the best gift you can give yourself.

4. Be very careful about whipping yourself: In other words, use something positive as a motivating tool. And never use the avoidance of something negative as a source of motivation. You see, trying to avoid the negative leads to mental and subsequent physical burnout.

5. Have a time limit: Without a time limit, your dreams will remain just that, dreams. Deadlines are extremely effective because they force you to focus on the most important elements. Moreover, a deadline will prevent the dreaded feeling of never-ending effort.

Learning how to master your motivation doesn’t require herculean effort. It requires a sound strategy for behavior change. And remember that the most important ingredient here is taking action!

Writer Katherine Crawford, a fitness physiologist and recent arm fat sufferer, teaches women how to get slim arms swiftly. Unearth how to get sexy and toned arms by visiting her website about how to shake weight with sound principles now!

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Anger management is a learned skill, so it is more common in youngsters and teens, who have not learned good coping skills to deal with their anger. Should you feel you are at risk of losing your temper in a way that could harm you, or others, you should always seek professional help. Ask your parents, pastor, physician, school counselor, or a trusted, responsible friend for help.

Whether it is road rage, a provoked emotional outpouring of anger, or losing your temper over something silly, every one of us have lost our tempers at one time or another. Anger management only becomes an issue when we are no longer able to control our anger, and have destructive outbursts. A destructive outburst does not necessarily mean that you have broken something, or physically hurt someone, as a manifestation of your anger, it just means that, because of your inability to control your angry responses to a real or perceived stimulus, you have done something harmful to someone, something, or even to yourself.

When your anger controls you, you may feel you are at the mercy of something that you can not control. Anger can cause you to do things you normally would never do, and even things you could regret for the rest of your life. Anger can even affect your physical well-being in more ways than one. Studies have shown that anger causes your heart rate and blood pressure to rise. Hormones, like adrenaline and noradrenaline, also rise when you are angry. Anger can push you backwards emotionally, into the cave men era, when the fight or flight response was the only way to stay alive in an uncivilized world, so not only does uncontrolled anger effect your life in the areas of your personal relationships with others, it effects you physically as well.

In order to develop good anger management techniques, you must first understand what provokes anger, and the bodys natural response to anger. Anger is precipitated by the bodys natural chemical responses to increased physical arousal, emotions, and accompanying behaviors, that result when a person feels threatened, or perceives a threat or loss. The threat does not necessarily have to be a threat of personal, physical harm. It can be a threat to their self-esteem, when they believe their feelings are challenged or discounted by another.

The body naturally responds to any perceived threat by producing adrenalin to prepare for “fight or flight.” How a particular person responds to these threats is due, in large, to how they have been conditioned as a child or learned later in life, whether with good anger management techniques or negative ones. Many abuse victims are conditioned to respond violently, and learn verbal, mental, or physically abusive behaviors from others, and never develop positive anger management techniques.

Every person alive has triggers that set off their anger. Here are the most common reasons people become angry:

– A threat to their values (disagreeing with something someone is doing, such as kicking a dog, or not following the rules)

– When someone insists they do something they don’t want to do

– When someone hurts or betrays them, and they feel a loss of trust

– When they attempt to escape guilty feelings over something they do not want to feel or admit to themselves

– When they believe their feelings are discounted, and their sense of self esteem is compromised

– When expectations are not met (realistic, or unrealistic expectations) and they don’t get their way

School shootings, physical violence among families, friends, associates, and loved ones, are proof and manifestations of the fact that poor anger management is on the rise. Whether you blame the increase in anger related crimes, such as assault, murder, rape, physical and emotional abuse, on a lack of parental supervision, violence in video games or television, or other causes, the manifestations of poor anger management are becoming more and more commonplace, and increasing numbers of people are seeking professional help to gain control of the destructive effects of poor anger management.

Both internal and external events can cause anger. Anger can be directed at a specific person (a friend, teacher, or parent) an event (academic challenges, loss of a loved one) or by frustration or worry over personal problems. There are many common causes for anger in school. Young people are easily frustrated and become angry when faced with difficult challenges. It is hard not to get angry when you feel you do not fit in, do not understand an assignment or project, when you fail a test, or fail to reach a goal. Frustration can lead to anger. Many students get angry at their parents or teachers, because they don’t feel the rules are fair. Sometimes anger occurs, without even knowing exactly why you are angry. There are times it cannot be controlled and this is when we should seek help.

The worst thing you can do is deny your anger. While you want to learn to manage your anger, so that your anger does not cause you to do harmful things to yourself or others, when you hold your feelings inside, they can lead to an explosion, and the only way to prevent that, is to learn good anger management techniques.

Mature people try to practice positive ways to deal with their anger in an argument. One positive way to deal with anger against loved ones is to make a contract that they can leave during a fight, whenever they feel that they might lose control. Just go to a private place for time out. In private they do damage control techniques like waiting out the initial rush of the anger, and trying to think from the other persons viewpoint, to bring their anger level down and then return to deal with the problem.

Accepting that you have an anger prone personality and recognizing the need to actively work toward anger management in order to live a happier life, makes the difference in managing anger successfully. A commitment to study and take parenting classes to seek more effective ways of disciplining their children, taking anger management classes, and participating in couples counseling, helps to learn better ways of being with the people they work and live with.

Some people with high degrees of frustration keep tabs on themselves and work at diffusing their anger responses. They will use positive anger management methods; because their conscience tells them that their outbursts hurt others. Some people recognize that they are acting out angry responses they learned from their own parents, and sending that legacy down to their own children. Some get help because their partner gives them the ultimatum of threatening to leave them if they do not get help. A few get help only after they lose their spouse and families, but sadly, some never learn anger management methods that could save their families, if not their own lives.

Follow these instructions, record them and play them back to yourself on an mp3 player, cd player, tape recorder, or whatever technology you have accessible This works! Just record and play it back to yourself and follow the instructions:

Sit down. Close your eyes and draw in a deep breath. Im not going to try to put you to sleep as it is totally unnecessary. But, I will ask you to close your eyes so that your attention cannot be distracted by anything else near you.

Now, tell yourself that every word I say is going to be implanted in your mind and be printed, ingrained and embedded on your brain. This message is going to stay permanently fixed, imprinted and embedded and without your will or knowledge; in fact, perfectly and unconsciously on your part — you, yourself and your whole body is going to obey these commands.

1. Every day, three times a day, in the morning, at midday and in the evening at the usual meal times, you will feel a healthy feel of hunger.

2. You will experience a sensation that makes you think, I think it would be great to get something healthy to eat.

3. Then, you eat and you enjoy the flavor of your food without overeating. You are also careful to chew properly, and you transform food into some form of soft paste before you ingest it.

4. By doing this, you easily digest your food in a healthy way and you feel fine in your stomach/intestines. Your body will assimilate what youve eaten and your body will make proper use of it to make blood, muscle, strength and energy, in a word — life.

Since you have well digested your food, your bowel function will be absolutely normal and every morning on arising, you will feel the need of emptying your bowels without ever needing to take any laxative medicines. Your properly eating of fruits and vegetables, grains, other healthy food items balances your entire system.

Furthermore, every night from the time you wish to go to sleep to the time you wish to awaken the next morning, you will sleep deeply, quietly and calmly without nightmares. Upon awakening, you will feel perfectly well, cheerful and active.

If you occasionally suffered from feelings that werent totally happy and content; from now on, you will increase your feelings and thoughts of happiness. You will always be perfectly cheerful and happy, even without reason for your happiness.

From this moment on, you will be patient and with an even temperament. You will enjoy being always patient and being the master of yourself. The things that might have bothered you in the past now will leave you totally unbothered and perfectly calm. There is your concept of, Dont worry, be happy.

Your mind is free from negative thoughts and negative ideas and fear. You are positive, confident, mindful and conscious of your thoughts and by being so you keep yourself on the path of being positive, confident, aware and conscious always.

If you negative thoughts creeping in, you simply say, Stop! Cancel. Cancel. Cancel! Say these words to yourself: I am King of my domain of positive living. I am filled with the light and love of the creative force. I am a winner in all things in life and I gain by helping others to help themselves. My mind, body and spirit all benefit from my positive lifestyle.

As of now, all of your organs are performing their functions perfectly. The heart beats in a normal way and the circulation of your blood takes place as it should. The lungs are carrying out their oxygenation functions and also the stomach, intestines, the liver, the kidneys and the bladder. If at present any of them is acting abnormally, that abnormality becomes less every day so that quite soon, it will have vanished completely and the effective organ will have recovered its normal function.

If there has been any trouble in any organs in the past, they immediately begin to get better from day to day and soon are totally and entirely healed. Say to yourself silently in your mind, Every day in every way, Im getting better and better and better. My unconscious mind acts upon the entire human organism for the natural, automatic healing ability.

From this moment on, any lack of self-confidence or any lack of self-trust whatsoever — disappears little by little, day by day, and opens to accept total self-confidence based on the knowledge of the force of the incalculable power which is in each one of us.

It is totally necessary for every person to have self-confidence. With it, you can accomplish far more in life. With confidence, you can accomplish anything you want; which is good, honest, honorable, and beneficial to yourself and those you love, and the planet in general. Now, you have confidence in yourself and this confidence gives you the knowledge that you are capable of perfectly accomplishing whatever you want.

So, whatever you want to accomplish or achieve, something you always think that is easy and you make the words, no, dont, never, difficult, impossible, I cannot disappear from your vocabulary. They are not winners English. In simple English, I say, It is easy and I can do it.

By considering everything is easy, it becomes smooth for you even though it might seem difficult for others. You do it easily, quickly, without stress, totally effortlessly.

You tell yourself, everyday, from this moment on I am shown, guided and drawn to the right people, places, resources, information, insights and synchronizations to help me manifest what I want.

From all the points of view, physical and mental, I now enjoy excellent health.

You have much better health than you have ever had before.

Now I am going to count up from 1 to 3 and when I say 3 you will open your eyes and come out of the relaxed state in which you are now. You will come out of it naturally, without feeling in the least drowsy or tired.

Really, you will feel strong, vigorous, alert, active, full of life. You will feel more cheerful and strong in every way. 1, coming up slowly feeling rejuvenated and revitalized 2, feeling better and better. 3 you are now wide awake and feeling much, much better than before.

Record it, play it back 2x a day of 21 days, and pray and believe a miracle will happen. And it will.

Dr. Jay Polmar, a therapist, healer, hypnotherapist, and energy worker knows the secrets to life and healing. In his 63 years he has helped thousands around the world and teaches some of these secrets in ThinkRight.

Try that simple method, you will enjoy ThinkRight ThinkRight and have a great life!, and ThinkRight and have a great life! You are welcome to reprint this article – but get your own unique content version here.